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writes:I'm not insecure, but I'm really bad at taking compliments from guys so sometimes I think it comes across as insecurity. Here's an example:Watching tv with a guy I'm seeing when a female celebrity comes on and he says "wow, I love her! She's so sexy" and I say something like "yeah I know - she's stunning!" and he looks at me and says "you'd rival her though, easy". Now what would you say in response to that?! Is there anything better to say than a simple thanks? I'd love any ideas on this, or gracefully taking compliments in general.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): Hmm, if its just a "guy" or guys in general, you just have to be more accepting to the compliment, and go with the flow. Although in that example I guess it's a bad compliment if he was trying to hook up with you, but I mean if it's just a friend then you can just go with the flow. Like in that example after what he said, you could say "pfft Yeah she has nothing over me" in a sarcastic tone, or even go with "Oh screw you!" then chuckle after. If you make those feels ok around you, then I think you yourself will feel much better.
You yourself may not like the compliment, but I think this is my general way of dealing with awkward compliments. Also a gf of mines does this, and she gets along pretty good with everyone.
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reader, Harry Castle  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 Oh how cynical, Pink!
I agree that perhaps it's none too diplomatic to compliment other girls in front of your gf, but we can all appreciate beauty when we see it, and men, for our sins, are VERY visual.
It's the way we are made and we can't help it: and you exploit that fact by looking pretty.
Don't you?
Also give the man credit for complimenting his gf because he loves her and thinks she is at least as gorgeous, and not to cover for what he had said.
Many people, male and female, are unaccustomed to receiving compliments and they have difficulty responding, but if words fail you, smile and teinkle at him to show how pleased you are and appreciate his remarks.
Ignore his remarks about celebrities, they are the product of whole armies of make-up, wardrobe and hair artistes and so totally unrealistic - as real as a painting in a gallery he might admire?
YOU are real, and with him and nothing else matters.
Harry.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (13 July 2009):
A simple "thanks" will do. Personally, I think it's highly irritating and immature when guys want to say things like, "Wow, she's hot" about a girl on tv. Do you look like one of his buddies? No, I sure hope not. He can keep those comments for when he's with his friends. So, why compliment him when he's being a douche bag? He's only saying something flattering to you because he knows he shouldn't be making comments like that around you. He needs to save it for guy's night.
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reader, Heartbroken-xx +, writes (13 July 2009):
When your boyfriend says, "your beautiful" say, "your not so bad yourself" or say, "your pretty cute as well"
Recieve a compliment - give a compliment. If you don't want it to get too mushy, then I suggest saying something I have said up there.
Don't feel insecure! Be happy if your getting compliments. I know how you feel though, when there is a really beautiful girl on tv, and my boyfriend says, "(...) but not as beautiful as you are!" I usually just giggle and say, "yeah right"
Even though it may not be true.. it's still nice to hear.
Good luck,
xxx
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