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writes:Since been 14 (I'm now 16) I can't wait to be an adult/grown up etc. I've never been in a realtionship or anything, and that honestly doesn't bother me (plenty of time for all that lol). I'm doing my A levels now but I just want to be through with been a "child".I'm fed up of been treated like a kid, I don't go out partying, or drinking etc etc, them things just dont appeal to me, but when out and about people still speak to me like a child, or look at me like a waste of space. GRRRRRR.I know I shouldn't be wishing my youth away, but I cannot stand it any more. Please tell me that been an adult isn't anything to look forward to that much lol. How can I stop been so fed up with my life at the moment?thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 That's a good start. Your actions will show your maturity level. Some people will always view you as a kid. Heck, my dad was being teased about being a kid last week by his uncle and my dad's almost 65.
Ignore people who say things you don't like. Show them they shouldn't write you off. Take the necessary steps to become independent. You can do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI cant get a job as there is no work in the town i live in, and I have no way of getting to any other place, cant get lifts of my mother etc.
I volenteer already, at a local animal rescue and I do online research etc for a national ferret welfare so it's not like I sit around doing nothing.
I don't expect things to be given to me on a plate, I see to all the animals and help out around the house, if I want something I earn it, I don't get given pocket money, instead I get my animals food paid for and any vet bills that occur, which again I do jobs for.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (18 November 2010):
 You know, when you are a teenager you can't wait to grow up, to go out into the world and be independent and be your own person and have no ones rules but your own. Then you turn eighteen and you realize that there is rent, bills, car payments, gas, household items, etc. Life sucks, well, most of the time.
Enjoy your youth. When you are in your twenties, you are going to wish you were sixteen again and living at home where your parents pay for everything and hand you money.
Time flies as you get older, don't age yourself, time will do that for you. Enjoy the time that you are in.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Go dirtball! I would also like to say while you're a teenager, you have the most opportunity to make important accomplishments that will affect the rest of your life. You hear about all these young people who grow up to be millionaires, well it's because they invest the freedom they have as youth. They take life by it's horns and understand the benefit of their age.
You will not have the chance to be this available and competent again in your life. You are absorbing information like you wouldn't believe! In 3-4 years you'll be just like the rest of us... working, paying bills, trying to make it. So build yourself up now and your skills. Maybe get a part time job. See what volunteer work is out there. Or, have adventures and spend lots of time with your friends doing things you like to do. You've still got a few more years with this kind of time at your hands - what are you gonna do with it? Want to be an adult? I say THINK like one and take advantage of what you've got in front of you. The more you do now, the better future you can have.
Soon enough you'll older and looking at 16 year olds like "kids". You sound bored. Go get involved! Good luck!
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 November 2010):
Ok, this may sound harsh, but it's not intended that way. If you want to be treated like an adult, then act like one. Throwing a fit about being treated like a child makes you look like a child. Maybe you're just venting here, but to me you sound like a kid.
Now, there is nothing wrong with being a kid. Sure, you're legal age for sex, but that doesn't automatically make you an adult. Do you work? Do you pay your own way for things? Do you help out around the house without being told to? Do you pitch in to help with groceries/living expenses? My point is, that there may be reasons that people still view you as a kid, even if you're not getting into the whole "kid" bad habits of parties and drinking.
Adulthood isn't all that great. I miss my youth. I miss having summers off. I miss not having to pay bills. I miss not having to work for endless weeks. I miss the shape I was in and the girlfriends I had. There are days I'd definitely give up what I have now for what I had then, parental rules included.
All we want when we're young is to be older. Eventually that switches. It seems like it will take forever to become an adult, but once you get there time just disappears. Heck, the last decade has flown by for me. It feels like a blink sometimes. Learn to appreciate the now. Appreciate what you have. Work for what you want.
Also, I've known 30 year olds who were less mature than some 16 year olds, but that doesn't change the fact that the 16 year old is still a kid. Give it a few years and demonstrate with your actions that you deserve to be treated like an adult.
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