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writes:Dear Cupid,I've been seeing this incredibly cute, sweet and well mannered guy for the past month. We see each other about twice a wk and he's wonderful about scheduling dates a wk ahead of time - I just love that!! He's what I want in soooo many ways BUT here's the deal-eooo....his ex runs a business out of his house which they use to live in together for a few yrs up until the end of summer. At the end of summer, she dumped him because he didn't want to get married. I don't either - been there, done that so we're a perfect match in that way. I just want to be a quality guys #1 special girl. I got invited to his place last wknd for a fabulous dinner - the works, very romantic but I'll be damned if he doesn't still have photos of them together all over the damn house! What gives? His actions say he's over her but this picture thing and her still running the business in the house says something different!! I'm so confused, what do I do? Do you think he might be FWB with her too? Should I ask? I hate this feeling of uncertainty!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 November 2010):
 You two have been dating for a month so it's all kind of "new". I would ask him point blank what's up with the ex and her running HER business out of his house. Who knows maybe she is part owner in the house?
I think being up front about how you feel about it, is the thing to do. Instead of trying to guess (we all know how easily the imagination can run wild and create all sorts of crazy scenarios).
Talk to the guy. It's not hard. Just say, the visit to his house made you curious as to his ex, with the pictures and the business and all.
Honestly though... I am not quite sure he is totally over her. She left him right? and HE still has her pictures up? One of those things that makes me go Hmmm...
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reader, elyng +, writes (18 November 2010):
If he was really over her he would not have pics of her anywhere, so you can rest assured that he is hoping she will come back and be satisfied with an non-marital relationship. Meanwhile he's probably getting used to having his cake and eating it too now. Don't be so gullable and he will respect you more.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 November 2010):
 Hmm this sounds suspitcious, if he was over her, i really think he would have all the photos down and tell her that she needs to find somewere else for her business because he needs to get on with his life.
Sit down with him and ask him to be honest with you, tell him you are at an age where you dont want to be messed around ask him what he wants from you and why the photos are still up all around the place. Im not sure if he is still with her in a sexual way but ask him and clear things up. But to me it sounds like he still has a think for his ex.
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