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writes:Dear cupid,I'm a 24 year married Indian woman who has a one year old child. Two years back I got married to a man who does not take any decision on his own but always depends on his mother for anything, however trivial the issue may be. The problem is that the mother happens to be a wicked woman who instigates his son against me to psychologically damage me and put me down at every oppertunity. At the time of marriage my parents gave our In-Laws a very decent dowry besides footing the marriage bill which was quite an amount. My Father In-Law happens to be a highly qualified criminal who was unceremoniously removed from a decent job due to his fraudulent activities. Without checking the background of the family we entered into the marriage alliance with the above family and that has proved very costly for us in terms of the financial loss and also in terms of the mental agony suffered due to the physical as well as mental torture that I suffered at the hands of my husband and In-Laws. My husband had also fraudulently made me stand as surity for a hefty loan that he took to buy a house in his name. The bankers who lent the loan accepted my surity as I also am a proffesionally qualified woman (Software Engineer)working in a decent company.Recently, things had come to such a pass that I no longer had the strength to withstand the cruelty meted out to me by my husband and my In-Laws due to which I had to resign my job after which I moved into my parent's house which is in a different city. I lost all hope to reconcile with my husband as he refuses to see reason whenever I tried to talk it out with him.Can any one please advise me as to what I should do and how I should proceed from now on, to stand on my own legs and support my family. Please note that at this juncture I can only work from my home through my computer and inter-net because I have to take care of my one year old baby. or I can set up a small time business in the vicinity of my house. Please suggest some suitable businesses from which I can choose one that is best suited to my temprament and convenience.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 There should be a lot of openings for software engineers. Why not let your family look after your kid while you work outside?
Alternatively ,since you are in the software business, you could open a small computer shop dealing with software's and computer business from or near your home.
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reader, weparley  +, writes (27 March 2010):
If it's as bad as you're saying, Then why don't you just divorce the man? I mean all I hear is complaining and what him and his family did (does)Just simply leave and get a divorce. Have you seen that movie called "I can do bad all by myself."
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reader, jada101 +, writes (27 March 2010):
 Well frist of all I would like to know if you live in the usa my sister has 2 kids and now lives by herself has a good job with no help from her kids fother the frist thing that she did was get daycare for the kids she couldn't pay for it at the time so she got the state to help her then she got a job it was a low paying job frist she was only makeing like 400 dollers a week then she got a better job as a cna but you already have a some school on your back so get daycare for the kids that way you can geta job out of your home from 8 in the morning to 4 then save up a little $ and get a apertment for you and your child. The usa help mothers with kids a lot. And put your ass of a baby fother in childsupport that will help you out to with money things will work out daycare frist then job that how you start
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