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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2006): I have tried plenty of times to go and sneak out to my boyfreind.I have tried through the windows but i have always been caught.In the end my mum said if i asked she would of said yes so now i see him everyday and my mum doesn't mind.My best advice for you is to let your mother know about him and don't try and sneak out.Your mum should let you out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2006): im havin the same problem i almost made it but i failed.. i learned from my lessoon and i didnt even get to see my boyfriend =( .. my best advice is is tell u mom bout him before hand but since i noe ther is no chance she let me go c him then let him cum to the house even tho i noe that is really borin cuz all i cud do i look at him for the 3 hours he was ther and then he had to leave so then i could give him a peck not a kiss lol... but yea if that doesnt work then juss agree to see him somewhere else .... dont do nothing stupid and if not juss wait till u leave the house to start datin.. hoped i u like me advice... best i have
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reader, vixsfix +, writes (19 March 2006):
 Hey, we all love to protect our mum's, I know i've had a hard time with mine, she is really over protective. Try talking to her first gently about urs and ur bf's relationship. If she 's not having any of it, then that's not fair, but dnt lose ur cool, dnt shout (it works wonders i've found, to stay calm)Invite him over when ur parents r there so they get used to him get to know and most importanly trust him! This should then work as a two way street to letting you go to his house in the evenings or weekends in the way that he comes to urs! It might take a while but there's no lying, no bad feelings and no being called immature.However if your mum is simply just not having any of it, then that is unfair on you! You may have to employ a little 'what she doesn't know, won't hurt her' be extremely careful with this!Stay safe, always let people you trust know where you are, and never let people push you into things!Good luck hunny!
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reader, mystify +, writes (18 March 2006):
 is there a lack of rust in yur mother/daughter relationshp?!
if so find a resonsible adult , maybe a docter,family friend, older friend you can talk to, it important you do:0)
bless ya x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2006): Suorpio, I would have suggested the same thing, with a tinge of sarcasm. Nevertheless, excellent advice. Sincerely. 8]
...and as he said, "Alternately, you could try ASKING your mother for permission."
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (17 March 2006):
 Dont do it. It is stupid and immature to do something that your Mum has forbidden you to do.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (17 March 2006):
 As a mother it goes against the grain to tell you how to do this but im sure you will find a way if you want to.
Just ask yourself why your mum does not want you to see this boy and what will the consequenses be if you are caught and are they worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2006):
I think you would be very unwise, to ask your friend to lie for you. It's not only shows your dishonesty but also your lack of respect for her, as your friend. She could get into trouble with her parents for supporting your bad choices. I think your Mother has a huge problem with you...she doesn't have your respect. The kind of respect that causes you to honor your Mother's home and rules, even though you don't always like them. I agree with 'Hopeful'..you are putting yourself in a unsafe situation. Please also rethink what the consequences will be, if you get caught. Trust is something that you earn in a family and once you break that trust, you will have to work ten times as hard to gain it back. Life won't be fun for you, with Mom keeping you on a short leash. Your Mom has a responsibility to make sure you are safe and healthy. If she is concerned about you she has the responsibility to monitor you in any way she can. So..talk to Mom-tell her you have a friend, you'd like to invite over occasionally to socialize with, in your home. She may agree to that, as long as she's on the premises. But by opening up and being honest, you are letting her know you can be trusted and you are making sensible choices. Take care and good luck
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (17 March 2006):
 Why do you want to sneak around your Mum's back?
Does she not approve of your boyfriend or boyfriends in general? Does she not like you out at a certain time or in certain places?
Is it worth sneaking around and betraying your Mum's trust and possibly putting yourself in a dangerous situation where your parents cannot find you in an emergency?
Why not address the problem before resorting to sneaking around?
Wouldn't it be better to be able to spend time with your boyfriend, rather than worrying the whole time that your parents are worried or they have found out you have lied to them or they are trying to urgently contact you???
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2006): Find a friend you trust, and tell your mom you'll be at her house, and to cover for you if she calls. Then simply waltz out the door. Depending on how paranoid your mom is, the plan does entail a small risk, but I leave it up to you to decide whether it's worth it.
Alternately, you could try ASKING your mother for permission. Weird, eh?
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