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writes: I'm so disappointed with my body. With my breasts actually. They're small. However, I'm not "athletic". I'm not fat, but I'm not a skinny, long-bodied beauty. I'm medium framed, huge hips, most of the fat goes there, actually. I've always been disappointed with my body since I was a teen. I used to be fat, but then I lost like 20 lbs, although I still feel chunky (even though my weight is normal and healthy). I know that small breasts look good, but usually it's athletic women, you know? Or the ones like Shakira. But Shakira is petite, and I'm not. It's even more depressing that yesterday I was with my boyfriend. I'm on my period now, so I'm not available for sex right now. However, we were fooling around and he got aroused, so I started giving him oral sex, manual sex, etc... He was very turned on and asked me to lie on my back, take off my shirt, so he could titty f*** me. When he tried to, he couldn't, because my breasts are so small that there wasn't enough "meat" to help him. I could see some disappointed in him even though he said nothing. I know he likes them bigger anyway. You can tell by the kind of celebs he likes. But he's never told me anything.Anyway, I hate them, but I would never get surgery. For one, I'm scared to death about any type of surgery. I'm quite the healthy kind, so I've NEVER in my 20 years have had any type of surgery (not even an apendectomy or tonsil removal surgery). And breas implants scare me even more, because what if they leak, and I've seen on TV and online how you can get autoimmune diseases or something like that. Also, because I wouldn't like feeling "fake" and because I know people judge you harshly, especially men, if you have fake breasts. So I'll have to solve this the hard way. Here goes the question. I can't stand my small breasts, yet, I'll never have surgery. There's no way I can make them bigger, even though I hate them. So, what is an effective way to stop hating them and love them, even though they're small and don't suit my body at all? I'm not religious so please don't tell me that this is the way that God made me and that He doesn't make mistakes. Please. I was in a Catholic school for 12 years, so I'm sick of it. I hope this doesn't offend anyone. But honestly, I've tried "positive thinking" and just trying to get over it, but I can't. And now with what happened in bed with my boyfriend yesterday, I feel more embarassed and humilliated. I honestly hate them, how to stop and reverse that?
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (23 May 2009):
 im a 32 a cup. i have to shop in the childrens section to get training bras, i went to victorias secret a few months ago. i love getting my lingerie from there. i needed to be fitted for some bras and they told me ever so politely, u are a minus a cup and we dont sell these types of bras. im asian, im of extreme petite body type and i hate my breasts too. my advice? only 2 ways to go about it here. either u get over it, or u get surgery. because there is nothing u can do for ur breasts, but there is stuff u can do to boost ur confidence.i personally am waiting for my bf to buy me my boobs, im only looking to upsize to a b cup. i dont want big boobs. but, i do want a nice full cup. u need to do more research on the surgery part. there are many what ifs, but there are also many may nots! so u have to weigh everything. lastly, dont ever feel embarrased about ur small boobs because some guys LOVE small titties and wouldspit on a large titted girl and worship a small boobed girl every day of the week. it is after all preference, just like some women like 3 inchers, while some might like the 8 inchers.-ouch! yea, so u can never tit fuck a guy? he can still rub it between ur ass cheeks and get the same sensation as if it were a pair of tits. i cant tit fuck my bf and it makes me sad. but, he never cared for big tits and always like nice small firm asses. and he has made it clear very adamantly if not blatantly at one point, big tits get in the way. just cuppping them, or sucking on the nipples can be a huge turn on. forget the huge double dees sweety. be proud of the advantages u do have with ur small tits. if ur still not happy, either get counselling for ur problem, or, opt for surgery after u have been fully educated about its risks and all. an informed decision. thats what its all about dear.
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reader, mytwocents  +, writes (22 May 2009):
 I can confirm what red-headed anonymous girl wrote below. Nipples are often as (or more) important than overall boob size. A nice pair of nipples can make a small pair of boobs absolutely glorious. A lousy pair of nipples can render a large pair of boobs awkward-looking.
I also agree on the different crowds one’s qualities attract, though I’d call them “tastes” more than “fetishes.” Whatever you have, someone out there seems like it. Girls are always shocked when I like their hairy arms, small amounts of cellulite on their legs, or some other thing they didn't like about themselves. I’m always surprised at the weird things girls seem to find attractive about me--it’s usually something I've found UNattractive about myself.
I’m sure there are plenty of guys that would go crazy for your small boobs, as well as other physical qualities of yours.
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reader, mytwocents +, writes (22 May 2009):
I agree that this isn’t a problem you can solve with “positive thinking.” I also agree that getting the surgery is a bad idea. Small-and-real beats large-and-fake any day of the week. I don’t know how any other guy can even get near those things. They feel even worse than they look.
I personally love a girl with hips and tush more than a girl with big boobs. And, frankly, t**ty f****ng is way over-rated. I'm not trying to get you thinking positively, I just want you to know. I've dated a couple of small-boob girls that sometimes didn't wear bras (because they could get away with it). They would look so hot with their little boobs moving naturally in their clothes. When I see girls like this on the street, I can't keep my eyes off of them (not in a creepy way). And, guess what, they have SMALL boobs.
Honestly, it sounds like you would feel a lot better if you got fitter overall. Why don’t you join a gym or start running recreationally and work on your physique as-is? You say so yourself that athletic types look good with small boobs. Don’t exercise obsessively and make yourself gross, but I think if you got the rest of your body looking better, your boobs would sit better on your frame.
Then you’ll be (and feel) hot with your cute little boobs!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): My ex gf didnt have too much up there either, but she had nice hips and very nice legs, my point is just take advantage of your other body parts and flaunt them, it'll make you and other peoopke forget about the boobs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): God doesn't make mistakes - we are created in his image does that mean we don't make mistakes? fantastic :)
you have small tits. you have to live with them. They aren't an accessory, They are not playthings for your boyfriend, they are there for you. Not for him. (ok that sounds weird to me - actually they are play things for him as well)
anyway - my perspective i like breasts - don't care on size - i think skinny and pert is just as wonderful as big and beautiful. a stretched aroused shirt is so much nicer than a bagger jumper, you don't have to cross your arms when you run or wear a bra. Have you tried push bras?
ahem in a bit of spot (blush) research - i found this...
http://www.nypost.com/photos/galleries/gossip/celebp/20081023_sm_boobs/photo01.htm
worth a read and you are amongst such talented people - dont worry about bf - he should learn to love them - they are soo much more sensitive than bigger boobs..
star.x.
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reader, Felina  +, writes (22 May 2009):
 Hi there .I also had that same issue .I love to work out ,and I think I have an athetic body .However ,the more I worked out ,the less fat I had ,and my boobs were just vanishing!!!The skin was still there ,and they looked like empty bags ....Awfull!
This year I went to see this surgeon and he suggested breast implants .I had the surgery last month and now I have this huge ,hard lovely boobs .Almost no pain now ,and I can almost do everything.
So dont dispair!You can always have your boobs done.Its expensive ,but it really worked out for me .
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