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writes:i have been with my partner for 2 years now and im affraid he is getting bored in the bed room because i am scared to try new things. i recently discovered that i enjoy being on top but feel that i dont know the right way of doing so. i would like to know if possible on how to make it fun and satisfying for my man! i think i am on the verge of losing him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): Lola is right.. your fear of disappointing him is holding you back. Sometimes in sex, you must be a bit selfish. It's not about holding or keeping a man, it's not about giving him all the pleasure. That's not fun, that sounds a bit like a slave. It should be also about you, what you like, what turns you on, what makes you sexy. The most attractive thing you can do with a man, is to actually enjoy having sex, and doing things you enjoy. This dosen't mean refusing to do anything at all, because your scared, shy, or worried about what people will say. It means, becoming a woman, deciding that you want to experienc things, giving things a try, enjoying yourself, telling a man what you like, what you prefer and what you do not like.Getting on top.. Just tell him, that you find it so sexy being on top so you can look at him. This should be enough to turn you both on. Silence and fear is stopping you from having fun, but if he goes, well, he definately aint worth keeping. Don't have sex just to please a man, have it to please yourself.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (19 November 2009):
 you could invest in outfits or board games to improve your sex life. If you're uncomfortable then it could suggest that your relationship isn't as deep as it should be. Maybe the problem lies in the emotions department, you could stop having sex for a while and just go on dates and spend time talking and gain complete and utter trust.
good luck
xx
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (19 November 2009):
 We can help you better with the following answers:
1) What scares you about trying new things? Are there some things you're nervous about but would try, and others you really ARE scared of? If so, what might you be curious if nervous about?
2) What do YOU enjoy most about sex with your boyfriend?
3) What has he historically enjoyed about sexual encounters with you (i.e. does he love the way you give him oral sex)?
4) What do YOU like about being on top?
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