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writes:Has anyone any advice? Been with my bloke for three years and the sex is really boring. He isn't turned on by sexy underwear, i been and tried that one. He just cannot cum with oral sex. We end up in the missionary position all the time. I ask him if there is anything he would like to try or do. He says he is happy with what we have, but i am not. We are both very young at heart and in our early fifties. I feel like i could scream with frustration. What can i do? Not sure what to say to him anymore about it. We don't argue, i just boil inside.Help?
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reader, eddie  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 Keria seems to be very open minded and most of it revolves around the fact that being monogamous is not so important. You might have that frame of mind but you are in the vast majority. Encouraging people to be unfaithful is really not the best option. It only causes pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2007): I think Keria's advice is hideous in its selfishness. If you respect your partner you shouldn't just betray his trust just so you can get off. I definitely think you should talk it over, say something like although he's fine with the usual missionary, the same old is really affecting how you feel about the relationship; as for how to spice things up there's roleplaying, toys, DIFFERENT positions, I mean nothing you probably haven't already thought of. You know what you could do, you could send him a little message at work, telling him how you'd like your sex that night, or what you're hoping for, or maybe give him a "to buy" list of sexy things for the evening so then maybe he can anticipate it all day and then actually make it happen. at least then if it happened the same way you could maybe bring it up easier and be like, well that whole missionary thing you did when i sent you a note about my dominatrix suit [i mean, i don't judge!] was a little lacking in fulfilling my expectations.
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reader, penta  +, writes (27 April 2007):
 http://www.blowfish.com
There are some great toys there, and some good sexy movies (many even have a plot!)
And the next time he tries to climb on top of you, climb on top of him.
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reader, Keria +, writes (27 April 2007):
Maybe you shouldn't be in an exclusive relationship. Maybe you should find other man, and have sex with him. You don't have to leave this fellow, because it sounds to me like other than sex, you get along just fine. What I recommend is a younger guy, maybe in his mid to late 20's. You can find one who is attracted to older women, and it would be a huge turn on for him. If you want, you can mention to your bloke that you are going to do this, but you don't have to tell him, it's up to you. The young guy is really ideal, because you'll find him to be immature enough that you won't be tempted to "fall for him" and thereby spoil your current relationship.
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