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writes: Hi First of all thanks to all of you who answered my first question okay I am letting my fiance stay until the first of February but to me he is in denial or should I say trying to break me and let him continue to live with me I called off the engagement he is using drugs someone stuck a letter in my door last week, I knew he smoked marjunna he is sneaky and he wont talk about things he should.Now he has said the letter is the cause no the lies wont talk when he should and here he lent his car out to his nephew reported stolen I think he wrecked it some do not know been a week yesterday he got into a fight with some young guy before Xmas shoulder still messed up I am hearing in the letter if I only really knew well he sees the guy in the hallway lastTuesdy and comes in calls the police well they talk to the guy let him go my nephew knows some things he told me probably the guy may have said something he owed him money you are talking about young guys he says the one reported the car stolen only 19.How do I keep sane until the first he just mentioned Valentines Day and he is from New York talking about going there like he did not hear what I said somebody help me another thing mom okay she moved in with himafter shoulder surgery she is Jehovah Witness and I will say he lies to her sometimes anyhow I do not feel he would be able to stay with her when he moves out because today he was suppose to go there and get mailhe did'nt and he had said think talk to he anyhow how do I deal with her when he moves I told him Monday call her and tell her what is going on he did'nt.
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Drug abuse, lying and criminal behavior make this relationship a rocky one.
I would say if you can't trust him, then you can't love him. The relationship would never survive very long.
I think its probably for the best to break off your engagement and have him move out.
I can empathize with you and his mother. Both of you want to love him, but the drugs are destroying his character and relationships.
Until he stays clean and sober for a very long time, he will never be trustworthy and will only break your heart over and over again.
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reader, easygoing 3 +, writes (14 January 2010):
easygoing 3 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Dear Caring Guy Thanks for your comment I wanted this to work but to me he is talking now of course because he wont's that is the sweet talk kissing on me etc I feel he is in denial about me saying there won't be a wedding not the drugs we lived together a while before he moved in and he was not like this when he first moved in either can you tell me how he just took a 90 degree turn like that. Where did he take up with these young boys probably my neighbor next door someone told me he sells dope just answer that for me he is gone the first no matter how much he is trying to get me to say okay.
How do I deal with his mom I tried the other day to get him to call and talk to her did not when he moves finally she is I feel going to call I told him I did not wont to come between him and her thanks again
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 January 2010):
I think you are walking into a massive mess with this man, and I think you really need to move on from him, no matter how much you love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2010): Get this guy out of your life, he's trouble.
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