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writes: Ok well first off I will refer to my teacher as Mr. Chemistry because it's less confusing for me that way.Anyway, I have had this teacher for several years now and he is also my class advisor. We have grown pretty close and I spend almost every day after school with him just talking and helping him and another of my teachers with random things.Recently I have realized how much he means to me. I don't want him sexually or anything like that, but I LOVE him. He is my father figure ( I do not get along well with my real father who is emotionally unavailable), my mentor and my role model. He is also my friend whom I trust with anything.A lot of my friends question and tease me about my relationship with Mr. Chemistry. I have been to his house several times and I know a LOT about him...probably because we talk everyday about each other's lives. I am always with him and he favours me in small ways. He will always smile at me, and he looks at me differently. Like a tender look. Recently, he gave me a mixed CD and other little gifts. The other day I asked to borrow his hat for our theater class because I needed it as a prop. He forgot the hat and felt so bad about it, that the next class he had, he wouldn't even teach! He sat down and graded papers and kept telling one of my friends "I'm such an ass for not bringing the hat for her...she never asks me for anything and I forgot!". I was really suprised that it affected him that greatly...usually he'd just say "sorry!" and look ashamed and move on with his life. He apalogized every time he saw me and just looked SO sad. He told me that because he had let me down and disappointed me, it ruined his whole day and that he would 'male it up to me.'...I think he might have even cried! We have private jokes and sayings that no one else knows and I enjoy every minute I spend with him. I feel a bond and connection with him that I feel with no other teachers or even my parents. So, because of all of these various things, and more, I feel like he too cares about me. That is honestly my greatest wish, to be special to him, for him to always be in my life. I almost feel ashamed to be saying this...most students don't have this kind of relationship with their teachers.I'm not even sure what my question is. I guess I am just insecure that he doesn't care about me the way I care about him...that I am not special to him. I want and need him to always be in my life, even after graduation. He literally means the world to me and I can't imagine life without him. I know that this is all very insecure of me to be asking. I know that I have issues with my Father and that I see Mr. Chemistry as my Father Figure...I almost feel like I should have been his daughter, and he my father. Like I was put with the wrong parents...and I feel HORRIBLE saying that but thats how I feel.He is just the most amazing person I've ever met. He is so dedicated and caring and kind. I love his wife and daughter just like I love him. I don't know how this is even a question, really. Has anyone else felt like this before? How can I keep him in my life...and, does he care about me? I think he does but I need that reassurance.Thank you for reading this terribly wrong post.
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reader, emeraldclovers  +, writes (17 January 2009):
I'm sure many of us have stories to share, but you have posted this question as anonymous, and without your username, we cannot send you messages.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all of your responses! I was hoping to get more because I am really still sick with worry that there will be a day when I have to say goodbye to him.If any of you want to message me and tell me about your experiences, please do so! I love hearing about it and being able to discuss different scenarios.I adore him more and more every day and I just cannot fathom life without him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): if you care about him that much and he responds to you that positively then he cares about you too, so he defintley would let you just leave his life forever. You'll exchange numbers most likely when you leave school. One of my bestfriends is my teacher and everyday after school I'd stay after to talk and hangout and we became really close. At the end of the school year we switched numbers and we still hangout and go out to dinner and shop all the time. So don't worry about it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): yes i feel exactly the same way about one of my teachers. He is absuloutly amazing !!. I just completely love him, but as you say, not in a sexual way. I totally enjoy his company :). He is also my mentor, just like you said about your teacher. I think its truly wonderfull to be able to get so close to someone that isn't family but you see almost everyday! He always smiles at me, and i always smile back, he also always says hi too me aswell which makes me feel truly special. As you say, i can talk to him about absuloutly anything, it feels great to know that their is someone so special that you trust and love that you can just go and talk too at anytime. I also think alot of my teacher as a daddy material :), as you've said your not close to your dad, neither am i, id love it if i could let him know that, thats how i feel. Well to end it all, i hope i do get a reply back as i would love to chat to someone that feels the same way as me. Thankyou x
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reader, samsmommy  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 I think it's awesome that you feel this way about your teacher. You guys could email eac other after you graduate or you could stop by the school to have lunch with him after you graduate, etc.
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reader, Tevote  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 Hello there :)
Look you have nothing to worry about. It's beautiful if you can find that kind of relationship with someone and i'm sure he feels the same way, really! I mean if you can have that kind of relationship with him and talk to him all the time he really does care about you!
The easiest way to keep him in your life when you're leaving is ask him for his email, say you would love to keep in touch with him because you would hate to leave him behind as he's always been there for you...Or something along those lines whatever you want to say.
But From what you've written I am certain he cares about you, you sound like splendid friends...I can't believe I just said splendid.
Just be careful because other people can take your relationship as something else because some people are just silly, so be careful but i'm glad you have someone as a father figure.
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