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writes:I'm interested in heightening my sexual experience with my mate. I've done the porn thing with him and while that satisfies my immediate need and his, it doesn't take me where I want to go. I want to be so high on the orgasm that nothing else matters. For instance, I want to see stars or have the need to scream his name during my climax or to climax more than once in a session. This can't just happen in romantic fantasy, this has to be obtainable, but how do I get to that place?
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 I think alot has to do with the chemistry you both bring to the relationship and if you both have the same sexual style. I once dated a bass player for a band, and we were sexually matched from the moment we began our affair. We had amazing sex. But I didn't love him and couldn't see myself with him permanently. Fast forward years later I'm happily married to a very sexy, charming interesting guy but we don't have the same zing in the bedroom. Don't get me wrong we have good sex; He knows how to please me but it's not as "crazy" and wild as it was with the musician. I would like it to be buy my husband's style of love-making is not like that and I have to respect him and not try to force him into an area that's just not who he is. I figure it's a trade off because overallI couldn't be happier. I hope that helps you out.
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reader, little birdie +, writes (25 February 2011):
 not to be intruding...
but have you ever tried a butt plug? m
my husband and i recently started trying new things in the bedroom and that was one of them. more pleasure for him... definately more pleasure for me. i was always one fo those girls who wanted a tatoo that said "exit not entrance" over my bum, til he suggested anal play. definately dont knowck it till you try it. got a few things from liberator.com "wedge ramp combo" and havnt been the same ever since. i can honestly say that i feel almost drunk and totally limp after my big O's! happy hunting
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): This may or may not work, but if you haven't tried it yet I suggest seeing if your mate can find and stimulate your A spot. My gf and I tried it recently and she said it was better than the G spot and had a squirting orgasm. (she never had one of those with G spot stimulation, even though she orgasmed easily with G spot stimulation). She said she would keep having orgasms as long as I kept touching her there. This has been my only experience with the A spot so far, so I have no idea if other women like it as much as my gf.
I don't think it's magic, though. My gf still has to get aroused first by kissing, touching her nipples, oral, etc. before starting on the A spot.
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reader, Aunty Honest  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 I'd agree with CaringGuy, you'll have to get there together. However the best way to get to know your body and what pleases you is a bit of DIY. If you find out which parts get you soaring, it'll be far easier to guide him there!
The way you'll get there is relaxing trying new things and having fun along the way. Imagination+sense of humour=great sex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): No not obtainable for everyone..seeing stars, screaming names..multi orgasms. If by 41-50 you haven't ever felt any these feelings, and I presume you're not new to sex, then just like a fingerprint our sexuality is part of us. Not every female has multiple orgasms, regardless of what she does, nor do all women scream, the latter has a lot to do with just getting into the zone of pure pleasure you're feeling, no inhibitions, and just let go, it's not a conscious thing, it just happens, because it's you.
I think the more you try to re-in act what you see in porn films, and fantasy, the less likely you are to tap into your own sexuality, and what works for you. You seem to talk about sex in quite a'one dimensional' way, and a lot of what you refer to is in erotic literature, fantasy and porn, and all three are there to titillate the imagination, and does not mean we are all going to have sex lives like that, equally it does not mean if you don't your sex life is any less satisfying or good. Remember, it's all produced to arouse, and many happy couples do not have sex like in the movies. Discover what you like, what turns you on by getting to know your own body, if you haven't already, and just ensure you let yourself enjoy everything with your partner and dont hold back on anything.
Good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 February 2011):
The only way that you can make this happen, is if you spend time working out what works for you. Men aren't mind readers, and he won't know how to make you scream his name if you don't. So you and he need to do some experimenting (boss him around a bit and make him work!). Given time, you'll get to that place. You just need to be aware that he can't make it all happen without help from you!
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