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writes:Me and my boyfriends have had sex three times. Those three times hes cummed in me, but nothing had happened. Wat should we do, i mean my girls tell me maybe is when i get up the sperm goes down. I just need advice am i ready to have a child ?
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reader, terrilynn +, writes (27 July 2009):
have u tried while you were on your pierod?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): are you krazy!! you're 13-15 like me and you wnat to hav e baby already..
you're just a teen...you should be going out having funn..your only a kid once, so live it out
you shouldn't want to have baby at this age
think it over
who's gonna watch her when you're at school or when you're doing something else..
what you're just gonna drop it on your parents hands, i dont think they're gonna like that
an who's gonna feed it, where's the money gonna come from and is your boyfriend willing to help you out???
think it over..pleaze dont ruin your life like this..i wish i ahd what you have the freedom to be out and have funn, but you you're just waisting in something that could tie you down and really stress you out at such a young age...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): Your body is not developed enough to have a healthy pregnancy! please wait a few years so your body can mature. So many teens die in child birth and I'm sure you don't want to give up your life just because you want a baby NOW. You also risk the baby's life to! there's a higher risk of that child dieing in your womb than even making it to birth! If you know what is best for you and any children you plan on having in the future, you'll do the right thing and wait...please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): omg i am also 15 i agree i have a bf but i dare not have sex with him and he respects that and that is because i love my life and i dont want to spoil it at this early age. gurl sorry but u have to be happy that you are not pregnant perhaps u wishing that now but when it really comes u will wish u never even thought about that. please get make up ur life n stop ruining it deliberately
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reader, anoms  +, writes (13 February 2009):
 you realy are going to wander what happened to your childhood if you go down this route, thers a good reason people wait till later in life, its because the need partners they can rely on to support them emotionally and finantially, there is no chance your going to be with the same guy for the rest of your life if you do have kids in your early teens, and if your partner has got a job and that kind of stability while he's in school then goodluck otherwise come back down to earth, its like you want to ruin yourself to prove somthing, maybe its your parents, i dont know but it seems you have made your mind up.
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reader, sardia +, writes (13 February 2009):
Listen sweety, these people are not giving u good advice. 1st off u are not an idiot. Now it is not a good idea, and u should be praying and thanking God that u didn't get pregnant, the 3 times that he nutted in u. Your young, live ur life, have fun! It will be a time to do grown up things, having kids, getting married, etc... and then u will be wishing that u were 14 again. (When life was good). Stay strong sweety, and think about what I said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): YOUR FIFTEEN!
i mean i know im only thirteen but SERIOUSLY...U hAVEN't EVEN LEFT SKEWL YET (well...) seriously ur body might be ready to get pregnant but ur brain says otherwise,... best of luk in the futur
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 February 2009):
 Your uterus may be ready to have a baby but your brain sure isn't. Best wait until BOTH are good to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Girl, close your leggs and get some brains. You are not married, you are only 15, and you probably have no job and no money. If your bf loves you then wait and marry him when you are both at least 18, and when you both have jobs to support yourselves and a family.
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reader, anon642 +, writes (13 February 2009):
 No you are not ready to have a child. Neither of you are.1)Your bodies are still growing and developing, it will do no good for your health.2)You cannot provide the care, time and effort that is needed. No, yours and his parents are not the answer.3)You need money, and at this moment in time, you do not have a sufficient amount to bring up a baby of your own. Again..no, yours and his parents are not the answer.4)You shouldn't even be having sex at your age, it is illegal and your boyfriend can get into serious trouble with the police.5)You seem to be quite clueless about sex. 'i mean my girls tell me maybe is when i get up the sperm goes down' that is just ridiculous, please fully educate about sex and protection and then when you are older, have your own house, job and are in a relationship, then have a child.6)Both of you need to be educated first. Why should you expect your parents to spend another 18 years bringing up your children, your still children yourselves. Because if you have a child that is what will happen, the baby will get dumped on your parents.Funny enough a story was broadcast on the news today about a 15year old girl and her 13 year old boyfriend having a baby earlier this week..they are both completely clueless about what is required.I even posted about it..take a look and then decide..http://www.dearcupid.org/question/article-for-all-children-thinking-of-having-a.htmlSorry to seem harsh, but no, don't have a baby for a few years yet. And if you and your boyfriend are going to continue having sex, use protection (condoms, birth control pills) Ask your parents if they think it is ok for you to have sex at your age and become a parent at your age..if your too scared to tell them..you quite clearly have your answer.All the best.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (13 February 2009):
 Well if youre age is true (13-15) then you are still a child yourself so you wont be ready to have a child!
I hope I am taking this the right way that you are trying to get pregnant? Basically nothing will happen right away when you have sex, you will have to wait to see if your period arrives or not. If it doesnt arrive then there is a chance you could be pregnant and need to take a pregnancy test.
But I hope I can talk you out of having a baby, you are too young to have the responsibility of a child. You are not married - how can you be certain your boyfriend wont run off and leave you when things get tough? I know right now it might seem like having a baby would be a fun thing to do and there are lots of great things about children but you have the rest of your life to find those things out!
What is your rush? Why do you want to get pregnant? A baby is a serious decision; they cost lots and lots of money, so they will need at least one parent to be working to support the child. You will lose your figure as pregnany changes the body in many ways. You wont be able to go out with your friends anymore as you will have to stay in with the baby. I hope your not thinking "I will have a baby, it will be fun and then when I want to go out my mum will look after it". That is irresponsible and you will be the babies mother, it will rely on you for everything.
Only you will know when the time is right to have a child but I would suggest that it is not before you are aged 21+, married, have a stable full time job (and your partner does too) and you own your own home with enough space to bring up a child.
Just think about the life you would like your baby to have - can you give this to them now? I bet the answer is no, you will want the best for your child and you cannot give this to them until you have a loving home ready for the baby and money to provide for it.
Please stop having sex without protection, you are so young and have plenty of time for settling down and having a family. Finish school, find a job and a partner who will be with you for a long long time and then you can start to think about children.
I hope this has helped and you think about this carefully!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): I am sorry, but you are way to young to have a child. Wait to have a child when you are married to that one special guy that is just for you, and that the two of you are maddly in love with each other and will not want anyone else.Have a child when you have the money to support and raise that child in a wonderful loving home of your own, and not depend on your parents or the US government to support you.Teenagers having children is not fair to the child who is forced to grow up poor or without a normal family with their real mother and father.A teenager having a child to boost their own ego is just plain selfish!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2009): Your under 15 and your trying to get pregnant, you young lady are an idiot. You can't even spell properly, what the hell are you gonna be able to teach a child? Stop having sex and get yourself some education.
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