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*ubblygirl
writes:How do I get over a guy?This guy I, for some unknown reason, really like, disrespects me, lies to me, ignores me and is currently secretly seeing someone else. He has had 6 women in the past 10 months and I dont think this new relationship will last. However, I still want to be around him, talk to him, find out whats going on in his life and keep in touch and I find him very physically attractive!How do I get past these silly feelings for a guy who doesnt care about me and get past this? Its too hard! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): Welcome to reality!
most men are like this! and im sorry to say there is no magic potion to get over him. god, i wish there was one! but a trcik that most of the tiems work is take an intrest in someone else. if you two dont go to te same college it will be mucheasier. if you do, avoid him. dont mantain any contct for a long period of time. see other men, or enjoy your friends company. avoiding him will let your mind rest from him, dont text him or answer any sms because he clearly does not deserve you.
seeing otehr guys helps you realise that there are better men out there, all though sometimes that wont work.
but it requires time and patience. it will be hard to see him with other girls, with your friends or hooking up with people you know, but you have to let go. avoid him, even blame him for everything, but the least you mention him the more he will slowly become a minor part in your life..
hope this helped.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Hi there, The only thing I am going to say that I second,
everything that bubbloo said, follow those words that she gave you. Move, and move fast away from this man, Find a person with better values. This man, that you want to habg aaround with, will take you to place you don't want to go, look at where he has been. Take care.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (28 August 2008):
 bubbloo24 is right; you just need to forget him.
You need to find someone else who respects you; I bet the reason you pine after this guy is because you haven't met anyone else yet...I bet the moment you meet someone who respects you and treats you right, and vice versa, is the day that you forget all about this man.
Find someone who deserves you!!
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (28 August 2008):
 I think you need a clean break.
I know this is not what you want to hear but you are worth more than this!
Think of your ideal guy... would his characteristics be :
disrespects me
lies to me
sleeps around
sleeps with other women while I'm with him
Never settle for second best or less,sweet.
If you keep seeing him or talkin to him at the moment you won't get over him.
Visualise a train, put him and everything you know about him onto that train and let it chug it's way into the distance till it's a tiny speck. You don't need him.
Look in the mirror and say "I do NOT need him in my life. I can find someone who will respect me and not wind me round his little finger. I draw the line today."
If you let him play you, he will. Currently, he's having his cake and eating it.
Kick his ass to the kerb and meet someone who'll respect you. He's not the one, hun. If you're messing around with this loser, you're missing the opportuinity of finding Mr Right!
You're worth more than that. Tell yourself that everyday when you look in the mirror " I won't call him, I won't visit him. I don't need him. He won't get the better of me coz I'm worth more than the way he treats me."
You can do it, hun. You just need the confidence to kick him outta your life and keep it that way.
Take care xx
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