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writes:I recently used my wifes computer to send an email and noticed she had messages from an old friend. I investigated and realized she was having an emotional affair for over a year. Is it normal to want to check her emails?
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reader, Vessence  +, writes (28 August 2008):
I was in a similar situation. I checked my ex's emails and found she had arranged to met a guy when she had broken up with me only days before. It put a lot of tension on our relationship until I caught her with him after we were back together. I could never confront her as she would know I had looked at her email.For you I can only suggest to talk with her about this, she is your wife and something like this should be addressed before it goes furhter if it hasnt already. Dont allow it to bottle up, you will always be doubting her if you do.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (28 August 2008):
 It is now!
She's been cheating, i would want more answers than any email could give me though. Need to speak to her dont you.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): curiosity killed the cat, and it destroys marraiges.
I read an article, that talks about this; betrayl cheating adultry.. whatever you want to call it.
http://www.seductioninsider.com/women/infidelity.shtml
read it, its quite intresting,
but summaring it up, this emotinal affair, if it has ot affected the relationship you two have, might have saved teh marriage. it sounds wierd i know, but if youread this article it makes sense. I am not at al saying that I am pro affaires, but raher trying to give you her point of view.
If you still feel cheated and hurt by this you shoudl definetly tlk to eachother and be completly honest with each other. dont get angry at her, but ask her the reasons and how do you thnk things could improve.
hop ethings work out for both!
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reader, Dream_Girl +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Yes, sadly it is normal. Most people have insecurities about their partner or spouse. Unfortunately I don't believe you should confront your wife about it. She has done something horrible that's for sure, but you were looking through her personal mail.it's a sticky situation.What I recommend is talking to her and ask her if you give her enough attention.Usually woman have emotional affairs because they feel neglected. That's not to say you're neglecting her, but a lot of women want A LOT of attention and affection ALL THE TIME.Communication. That's all I can recommend.Best of luck.
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