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writes:we had been together for 5 yrs we lived together for 2 years before i got married before we was married i fell pregnant i got married in the july and ad the baby in oct and i found out he bin cheating i kicked him out in the january its bin a yr now but it still hurts he sees the baby but me and his girlfreind argue all the time but the thing is i still think about him im trying to move on but i cant. i have had relationships but i get scared of being hurt how can i get on with my life again and be happy like he is?
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reader, elsie +, writes (24 March 2007):
 first of all well done.i admire you for having the strength to have kicked him out.the fact he didnt grovel on bended knee proves you did the right thing.i elbowed my ex when our child was 4yrs old.he was a serial cheat.the only regret ive got is not having done it sooner.it took me nearly 2yrs to get over it and ofcourse you never forget but time does heal.at the time i thought id die of a broken heart.you will go through the mill of every emotion pain,anger,hurt,bitterness but it WILL make you stronger and you will be fine.having a baby to look after makes it all the more harder.but you will be so proud of yourself when you look back on these times.youve stood on your own.you simply werent ready for another relationship and your scars were too fresh.the slightest problem with a new guy can open up the old wounds.when you are ready youll know.try and make a conscious effort not to be jealous or make the new man pay for your exs mistakes.you sound like you dont suffer fools anyway.otherwise in the long run you will have paid well over the odds.you dont need to sacrifice any more of your time.ps.dont waste another second on his new girlfriend.dont give her the satisfaction of thinking you care.if she bothers you tell him to deal with it or if he wont you ignore her completely that will throw them.goodluck.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (22 March 2007):
 Hi
I think you need to learn to let him go its hard I know but dwelling on the pain will not help you in anyway infact it will just make things worse. You had every right to kick him out he was unfaithful and you dealt with the situation the only way you knew how. This guy never cared about how you felt that’s why he didn’t try to patch things up with you he didn’t respect the marriage you had. Just be happy that he is involved in the child’s life. Don’t care whether he is happy or sad he is out of your life accept that. find yourself a man who will love and respect you and stop comparing your relationship with his. Not every man is a looser like him open your heart and explore life that way you will be able to know the right man from the wrong one. Good luck.
Jovial
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (20 March 2007):
 Love is the hardest thing. You cant love someone and just get over some who you’ve been with for so long. Its natural to bee feeling hurt… He betrayed you!! But the best thing to does is leave him behind, your better off without a cheating partner!! I’m sure he will cheat on his new partner, your herd that saying ‘once a cheat always cheat’. No matter how much it hurts you will get over him and you will meet someone who truly deserves you, you just need time…. Love takes time.
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