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writes:I dont know what to do i need help im with a partner have 2 children the problem i have is when he goes out he does not come home he does not go out often i am really depressed, is he is making a fool of me?
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reader, Lill  +, writes (20 March 2007):
First off, realise that ANYONE would feel the way you do if their partner stayed out all night. That is not acceptable, no excuses. Although it might seem hard to do, try now to look inside yourself and ask "What do I want to make me happy?" If your answer includes him, then clear and honest communication is the pathway. He may or may not do this. Only you know. The best relationships are when both people are willing to talk and listen. Its just the way it is. I really understand your predicament and want you to know that you CAN survive and care for your children even if things can't be worked out. LOOK AFTER YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN FIRST OK?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): You need to be a bit stronger with this one. Let him know that this is not acceptable with you and he wouldn't like it if you did that to him. Why does he need to stay out all night? How old is He? He is acting like a kid without a partner or responsibities. Don't put up with this, but i think you must realise this already. Tell him if he does it again, then he is out of there and your life. Be strong and let him have it!!!
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for my answer on the night he didnt come home i was with him untill 1.30 inthe pub there was only 4 people there i was fed up so i asked him to come home he said not yet so i came home he came home then at 7.30 with my daughters boyfriend i think they were at a house party so he brought some one with him so i think everything is ok but its not i have told him untill i know the truth i dont want to know. i also said im going to play these games he said he would kill me so why is ok for him and not me
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): Not a lot of information here, so you live with a man and your two children an occassionally he goes out on the town without you and does not come home at all until the next day or the next morning?
This is a classic sign that he is cheating on you...no one can make a fool of you unless you allow it. The next time he goes out and does not come home, change the locks on the door, throw his stuff out on the lawn and let him figure out what to do about it.
Or, pack up the kids, and your things and stay with a friend or a relative, no explanation as to where you are going or who you are with.
Start getting dressed up when he gets home and tell him you are meeting a friend for a drink, don't tell him who the friend is or where you are going, even if it is just to the bookstore he does not have to know....it will make him sit up and take notice.
A lot of people will tell you to talk to him about it first, but what are you going to say, are you cheating on me? Do you expect an honest answer?
Your instincts are telling you something, listen to them, and either end this relationship or demand some changes and perhaps some counseling is in order.
By the way, why are you living together and not married?
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