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writes:ok so I have this bestfriend.. Or atleast he was.. Anyway..we were crazy close and talked everyday!! He started messing with me like grabbing my ass and stuff and I started liking him.. I knew he was a huge player but I still liked him.. One night I let him finger me and we haven't really talked since. No one knows so I was just gonna play it off like nothing happened but he ignores me and we never talk anymore.. Idk what to do like.. All I want is to be close to him again..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): Right now he is probably feeling weird over what happened. A long time friend suddenly became a sexual being with some foreplay attached.He may be scared that you are thinking that you are now boyfriend and girlfriend. He may not want that from you yet (or ever). Maybe he was feeling a little horny, you looked good, and he wanted to know what your pussy felt like. To him it was simple exploration, but he might fear that when you let him do that, you wanted a realtionship. He might even feel bad doing that to you (even if you enjoyed it at the time) when he had no intentions of going beyond friendship. Hormones make guys do things they shouldn't. Guys think with their d*cks and you know the size of those heads!Give him space. But...Write him a short letter, but be discreet about what you say. Be vague, in case he goes macho and shows it to his friends. Don't be all like "You fingered my pussy and never called me again?? I feel hurt and betrayed. You used me like your sex toy and never called me again". If you do that, you give him the upper hand.Just write him a BRIEF letter and ask him why he is being so distant lately. Tell him that the little bit of touchy feely you guys did was no big deal, really. Tell him that you were tired that night and felt a little wanting and there are no repercussions. Be BRIEF.I've always thought that if someone sends you a letter, even a letter that is bashing you to pieces, it is hard not to read it. He will read the letter and maybe if you come across as it being no big deal he will relax and come around.Good Luck
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reader, cheerwhore23 +, writes (27 August 2009):
cheerwhore23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut we have been best friends since I was in first grade.. Thats why its so hard for me.. Its not like I just got close to him this year..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): The time you 2 where close is called the grooming period.What he did was gain your trust which lead you to lower your defenses. He did this so well that when he groped you, u began to like him. Essentially, you let a playa finger you or, more specifically, play you. THEN AGAIN, i could b wrong
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): my advice is maybe try talking to him tell him hey whats up or something that you would say and then ask him why havent u talked to me nd such its the best way
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