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writes:I'm a 17 yr old girl from New Zealand, and i need some advice, if anyone has any 2 give. My bf and i hav been 2gether 4 around 8 months now, and we started having sex a little more than a month ago. Our relationship is very strong, and it's the real deal, not some flimsy hook-up. when we hav sex, he's always on top, and it seems realy awkward and sometimes uncomfortable. i know it can be like that at first, but it's been a while now. i feel awful saying this, but i dont realy get any enjoyment out of sex with him. he's my first, but im not his. I get bored and have to "fake" a lot of pleasure. As im typing, it looks funny, but it isnt. i dont know what do say to him, if i should say anything at all. should i? Or am i doing something wrong? i move and everything, it's not as if i lie there doing nothing. My close friends tell me to try being on top, but im too "scared", so to speak. i dont want to embarass myself, or hurt him or something.If anyone has been in this position (excuse the pun), i would be very grateful to hear what you did or said to improve the rather awkward situation. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, love-him  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Hey babe, it is always a good way to spice up your sex life, by changing positions.. ask him how he would feel by trying with you on top, he needs to know if he isnt satisfying you.. if you plan to be with him a long time, then he may continue thinking you are getting great pleasure when your actualy not. Dont be embarrased chick, your boyfriend is realy into you and you shudnt feel uncomfortable during sex. Talk to him chick, Mail me if u want to talk x x x
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Hi honey,
I understand honest I do tell him you have given it time as you were a virgin and you were following him and now you have gotten over the painful stage you want to explore more and you would like him to teach you!!!!get my drift this will make him feel good...Ask him if he knows of any other positions and this is where you come in when you find one you like you let him know its great don't be embarrassed you go for it girl, most women like foreplay first and lots of it to get them in the mood so go for it girl, you experiment with your body and when he touches you lead him to the right places he will soon know because your going to tell him ren't you??/
He is not a mind reader babes sex should be highly pleasuralbe for both of you so enjoy explore and have great fun.....
Good luck
Love Donna xx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 I guess you don't want to make your partner feel bad about his sexual technique. But, if he cares about you in the least (and he does seem to), he shouldn't have any problem understanding that some things are good for you and some others aren't
Couples need time to get to know each other, and I think it's all the more necessary here because you're also getting to know sex in general. But, this should be a hell of a lot of fun. Maybe you can suggest to try other positions. Not as a criticism of him, but as novelties. In this way, you will avoid hurting him (if that were the case) and you will have time to explore what you like and what you don't.
I know this can bring trouble to a relationship, and maybe there will be a lot of opinions around, but I think you should not fake pleasure, little or a lot of it. If he is doing something wrong (and that might be the case), he will continue to do it because, naturally, he thinks he's working wonders. This is unsustainable. Think of the problem you could have in, say, one year, if you told him you never enjoyed and you want a change.
This is a problem that the two of you can solve together, and it should be a pleasurable challenge.
Hope this helps.
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reader, JessAgonyAunt +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Hey, try talking to your boyfriend, im sure he would rather you tell him so you can sort it out, he might be embarssed at first but its better you tell him than feeling uncomfortable. You should not feel uncomfortable you should enjoy sex with your boyfriend. I think the sooner you tell him the better because the longer it goes on the more embarssed or annoyed your bf will be.
GOOD LUCK
JESS XXXX
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