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writes:i met a guy on holiday, we got on brill although i could sense that he was possibly insecure and jealous by a couple of things that he did and said. 2 days before i was due to leave i had a talk with him, he said he would come on holiday to where i lived and wanted me to come back to where he was as he works abroad. so basically it would have been a long distance relationship with alot of coming and going. i dont think i could cope with a long distance relationship. i gave him my email address and address and said if you decide to come on holiday where i live then contact me. he then went to give me his details and i refused them. why did i do that? because i was overcome with emotions and upset that i had to leave and i told him it was upsetting me. for the next 2 days he completely ignored me , didnt even look at me although my friends noticed he was still keeping an eye on me when he thought we didnt know. i left and we didnt say goodbye as i didnt approach him as i was scared he would not speak to me. ive been in a really bad relationship before and i mean bad and now i find it hard to aproach a guy in case they reject me. when i got home after a few days he still hadnt contacted me and i text him saying sorry i didnt say goodbye and i had a brill holiday with you and i miss you. he still has not been in contact with me. im not sure if he is playing games with me or what as he does seem to test me somtimes. i need some closure now as other guys in the past have turned up out of the blue weeks later and i dont know if hes the same. if i just leave things the way they are then what do i say if he contacts me in a few weeks or whatever? and why did he stop speaking to me, he knows i like him alot and everybody knew his friends and mine that he really liked me. but there is no way i can run after him. please help!
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reader, natmarie +, writes (12 August 2009):
 Hey - really sorry to hear that, am going though the same. Did he contact you agin? did you conact him? NatMAriex
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reader, noonespecial2  +, writes (28 July 2009):
I don't think there's much you can do if you have texted messaged him and he hasn't responded. There could be a small chance he didn't receive the text. I wonder, you mentioned that he ignored you for the last 2 days, did you approach him on these days and got ignored or did you ignore him as well? Your answer to this could indicate he was feeling you weren't interested, it's hard to know. You could try emailing him casually filling him in on what you've been up to and see if he responds.I know you're probably feeling anxious, but manage that and don't let that be known, people need to feel relaxed and confortable with one another at the early stages. Me personally, I'd just get on with things and if he contacts you in a couple of weeks then go from there. I would release any expectations you have about him and a relationship with him and just let things unfold. You're reluctant about a long distance relationship anyway.I was wondering also, what makes you feel you need closure? are you anticipating a rejection? do you feel you two were already in a relationship? I would really concentrate on letting go of this need to know and believe in yourself. He had feelings for you too, believe in that and let it magically unfold the way it's suppose to. In the meantime, you could reflect a bit on hurts from past relationships to discover what you learn't so it doesn't go into future relationships. Good luck.
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