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*ayla20
writes:my best friend has polycycstic ovaries which makes it difficult for her to have children she isnt happy that i am engaged to her younger brother.shes always wanted children and said if she found out i have a child with her brother she wont see us because of the pain and she wouldnt be able to see the child for a number of years.what is the best way to tell her of my situation i am only 20 years of age
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (26 July 2009):
 I have polycystic ovaries and I also have a child. Polycystic ovarian syndrome can make it more difficult to conceive and carry a baby to full-term, but there are lots of medications such as Metformin and lifestyle choices such as low-carb diets that can make it happen. It definitely doesn't make you infertile - at worst, sub-fertile (meaning you have less chances to conceive than other people and greater risk of miscarriage). It sounds like this girl is making herself into a victim of her condition, including emotional manipulation of those close to her. I don't think you should feel guilty about being pregnant (congratulations!) or feel bad about telling her. You didn't cause her polycystic ovaries after all. You cannot control her response to your pregnancy and it is her decision whether to adapt to being an auntie or not. As a good friend it maybe wise to read up on polycystic ovaries and give her some advice on treatments and options to put a positive light on her condition. However you should now focus on your own health and well-being as you prepare to be a mother...good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): That is very selfish of her. If you and him are happy together, and you will be happy with the child, it would be both cruel and selfish to cut you both out of her life and deny your baby an aunty simply because she cant have a child of her own. Obviously you will have to tell her and i know you want to know a good way to break the news to her but if thats the way she feels about the topic then there probably isnt a good way...Just tell her that your very happy about this event and tell her that although she must be very upset by the situation you would appreciate it if she tried to be happy for you
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