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writes:first of all i mean no disrespect to any one who may read this so please do not take me as some horny teenager. to get down do it. this is my last year of high school and most of my friends by now have had sex all of them but me. and you want to know something rather odd or funny. i am the most good looking they have even admitted it to me. i just lack the social skills required to get a decent looking girl to have sex with me. i know women are much more then that. i just feel kind of down that i dont know what it feels like to have sex for the first time. there are plenty of girls i know who would be willing to date me but i lack the social skills to communicate with them for a long period of time. i usually dont even look them in the eye and if i do i give off a very grim expression. people usually think im depressed all the time but im actually just nervous. i can only talk to girls i am not attracted to. so that doesn't get me any where. so is there any tip's any one can give that will make me more social or approachable? also i would like to know if i did get a girl willing to have sex with me where on earth would we go to do it at? i have very limited access to cars at the moment so that is out of the question. plus i have the parents that are very strict and always want to know where you are. which i know they mean well and can understand there reasoning but i just need to get away once or twice to do what i want. based on what Ive said is there any way i can find a girl willing to have sex with me? and if so where should we go to do this with out being discovered?
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (24 October 2011):
 I'm just gonna be as blunt as possible:
Dont look for a chick to have sex with. That makes you a jerk, player, etc, whatever you want to call it.
Sex is for reproduction, do it with someone you love. Honestly, the only way you're going to find a girl who wants to just have sex with you and be done, is if you find a prostitute.
Also, I'll tell you something that's clichè, but perfect.
If all your friends jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?
Just wait. High school isn't about sex anyays, it's about getting a good education so you can get a good job, so when you're an adult, you'll have a lovely house to have sex in.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 July 2011):
 Why not take you as some horny teenager when your question is how to get a girl in high school to have sex with you? The question describes a horny teenager. If you aren't one, then why are you not looking for a girlfriend instead of a shag? Don't be a slut even if your friends are, find someone worthwhile who you actually enjoy being with instead of "increasing the number".
Second.. you should take one step at a time. If you aren't comfortable communicating with girls/people for a longer period of time, avoid eye contact, feel uneasy in social setting... I can assure you you will NOT enjoy sex, but be freaked out by being that close to someone. You're just not ready for sex yet... stop pushing yourself into it. If you aren't comfortable speaking to a girl, you will not at all be comfortable having sex with her. It'll be a bad experience for you both.
You also asked "where on earth will we go to do it at?", which again shows you are not ready for sex. When you are ready you simply take the woman with you home to bed. You don't try to hump her in a car (as appears to be your idea of how it should be done, no offense lol).
Realize Im not looking down at you, I do find this a little silly though. Of course you don't take her with you in a car, if you had one, so having a car or not is really irrelevant. It'd be disgusting as well to do it in someone elses car, and is that how you want your first time to be? With a girl you don't know how to talk to in the car of someone else? Maybe people watching on the outside too? And what about the mess afterwards.... No no no. Just forget about that, it would be a bad idea. Car sex is for the more experienced who know what to expect and do.
If both of you are consenting adults you can have sex wherever it is legal. And the moment will show itself and come naturally. Work on finding the girl first, before you worry about finding a room to do it at! The location is the least of your problems, and if you find a proper girlfriend (girlfriend please, not some hoe), she will stick around to the time is right for you and her to have sex, when the right occasion and location arises.
How to get a girlfriend? Practice talking to girls and keeping eye contact. Practice practice practice, thats all there is to it. Find someone who makes you relax and who you feel comfortable around, and maybe even start caring for as more than a pussy and boobs.
Don't stress the sex part, you're young, in all likelihood you'll have sex several times by the time you turn 23. Virgins at 25 aren't rare either, just for the record. But as it seems, all that stands in your way is yourself and your inability to be social. Watch how others interact, and practice.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (13 July 2011):
(1)Whatever your male friends say, a lot of them haven't had sex yet. Or been even kissed. When guys talk about their wild sexual experiences with hot cheerleaders, lonely housewives, various strippers, and That Blonde Babe In Chemistry Class the conversation is entirely composed of a large measure of that very odouriferous beef byproduct which is commonly spread on the garden to fertilise it.(2)For a guy, getting sex from an enthusiastic and willing girl does unfortunately require social skills. So it looks like you're just going to have to develop them as a means to an end. This will require a lot of hard work, research, experimentation, and humiliating failure on occasion. Think of the grimly amusing tales you'll be able to tell in later life about your idiotic mistakes. I've slept with a LOT of girls, (far more than I thought possible when I was a teenager with exactly the same problems as you- life can provide some pleasant surprises), and unfortunately also have lots of 'God, Was I Ever An Imbecile' stories to go along with the more pleasant memories. (3) If you're going away to University as I hope you are, you'll be away from your parents in a few months and in a huge community of people your own age, male and female most with the same problem and also desperate to solve it. That will help, plus you'll have a bedroom elsewhere than your parents' home.Meanwhile, during the summer try starting five inconsequential conversations per day, every day, with five separate attactive girls (be brave) who are strangers to you (bus stops, libraries, parks, whatever. By the end of the first week, which will include rejection, blank stares, and snarling references to body-building boyfriends who are into MMA and various other stuff I've unfortunately experienced myself doing the same thing over the years you'll be on your way to learning about pleasant mindless conversation and how it can lead to meeting people.
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