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writes: What are some ways to focus your mental energy away from thinking about someone? I'm not looking for things to do e.g hobbies or stuff like that but rather ways to stop spending time looping on useless thoughts whilst doing things. Reply to this Question
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reader, pica +, writes (6 December 2006):
Meditation is all about focusing the mind and getting rid of idle thoughts. There is a great deal of info on the web about it. You can take classes depending on where you live, or get a book/tape to help you get started. Stilling the mind in this way can also help clarify your thoughts about things.
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reader, stina  +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Hi Anon,
Well, maybe you just need to figure out why you keep thinking about them and try to work on those emotions. Like if you're upset about someone leaving you, then figure out why it didn't work and what you'll do next time. If you're angry and someone, find out what made you angry and what can be done about it. I know that this answer is rather general, but I don't know what sort of situation you're in. I'm thinking that you've just broken up and you're trying to move on, but I'm not positive...
What about spending time with friends. Maybe talk to them about what is going on. Sometimes people are able to move on better if they have someone to talk with about what's going on. Through talking it out, you might feel a lot better, like a pressure has been lifted off of you, you know? It helps to get things out in the open and have a shoulder to cry on sometimes.
But other than that, there is no way to stop thinking about someone if all you do is sit there and do nothing - that's why people turn to hobbies (if not friends) in times like this. Because if we're thinking about a specific thing we're doing, then there's no space for thinking about the other person. Like when I was getting over a bad break up, I focused on my photography. I would get so wrapped up in making sure the pictures came out just right, that it didn't leave any time for me to think about the other person. That really helped me - because not only was I not thinking about the person, I was actually focusing on something that made me happy which lifted my spirits even more. You see what I mean? So it's not just that hobbies will occupy your mind, it is also that they will help you to have fun again!
It's always really hard to get over someone when there is nothing else around to occupy your mind - like when it's late at night and you're trying to fall asleep. It's times like this that you need to try and focus on the positive things in your life until enough time passes that you don't keep thinking about that certain someone anymore.
If you're really having a hard time of it, maybe seek the help of a professional. There's nothing negative that could come out of that, you know?
Anyway, I hope I was able to help! If I'm totally off on this, don't hesitate to respond with more info about your problem. :)
Take care.
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reader, jabey  +, writes (6 December 2006):
when you start to think about having what you call useless thoughts. Take a step back and focus really hard, and concentrate on exactly what you are doing at that time. Each day allow yourself a time slot to allocate time to go over all your little niggly worries and thoughts even write them down. Then focus on switching off and try to enjoy the rest of your day and put your energy into everything you are doing at that time. It takes a lot of practise but if you focus hard enough you can do it.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (6 December 2006):
 i dont know if there is a right way to answer ur question lets hope this will work. i gez u need to build positive images and thought in your mind thats the only way to go. even if u dont want hobbies and hanging out with friends kinda advice but these things can ease ur mind cos u will engage ur mind on the events u are planing or the ones you just had.
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