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writes: I'll give u brief intro of things so u know whats been happening - boyfriend cheated on me many times in 3 years whilst long distance, so we parted. 2 years later we decide to try again (he back home long term). I say he has to earn his trust back, not to be taking any female phone numbers, texting other girls etc. He agrees. He starts a new job and is out socialising with them one night. I find out he has taken a girls number and sent a text saying he couldnt stop laughing at her falling off bed (so he has broken taking girls number and texting her). Then he was round at her house putting up pictures (he is kind to other people!) but due to his history i feel this wrong. He says i'm wrong, i say he's wrong.... What you think - am i wrong? Should I just get out when he can't respect how i feel?
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reader, blackncute  +, writes (8 December 2006):
Hey, always remember tht once a cheater always a cheater.... dnt fight to a battle tht u r sure tht u r not going to win. Leave him, n move on. All the best.
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reader, DEBS83  +, writes (7 December 2006):
 I think that he thinks he can have this cake and eat it he knows ull take him bk you prove this to him the first time he was found out i think you should just get rid of him good luck
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (6 December 2006):
 I think deep down you know that answer yourself. This boy has not learn the lesson and clearly wants to have his cake and eat it!
Get rid and move on to someone who deserves you.
xxx
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reader, Nikita +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Hi Anon,
I would not be happy with this situation at all. You have given him plenty of chances and told him how you feel but he's already broken your trust again. You deserve so much better and there are plenty of nice guys out there who would treat you right and respect you a heck of a lot more. save yourself anymore worry and heartache and end this relationship. Good luck.
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (6 December 2006):
 Like Shandypop said "Once a cheater always a cheater."
Trust is out the door and you can't get it back no matter how many times you try again with this relationship. You'll have to end it because the trust is gone. He's cheated before, what's to stop him froim doing it again? Find another guy.
Even if for this ONE time he is telling the truth it's better for you if you just end it. "WHAT IF he stopped cheating and was telling me the truth?" That question may arise in your head but that simply means that you are uncertain. You do not know whether you should trust him or not. If you can't trust him end it. You can't be on your gaurd all the time. You need to feel safe and secure so you should end it with this guy. Don't keep taking him back.
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reader, DearDolly +, writes (6 December 2006):
 This has got dump him written all over it. Your boyfriend obviously can't keep to his promises and isn't taking you seriously. If he can cheat, He doesn't care about you or your relationship together. You deserve alot better. Get someone that is devoted to you and only you.
Good luck.
Dolly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006): Well sorry to be so blunt, but once a cheater always a cheater. If he can't respect how you feel then get rid! He know you don't like it and he does it again. How many chances are you really supposed to give him?? No i wouldn't be too chuffed. Give him an ultimatum and then get him out of your life for good. He will cause you a lifetime of grief.
Take care
xx
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