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writes:I am pregnant (as you may have gurssed by the name) and i don't really know the father. In fact, i was stupid enough to get in the car with a complete stranger. I was worried about finding a father figure for my child, as i dont want him or her growing up without a male figure they can depend on. Any tips? I am only 15.PS please save the 'you silly girl' lecture, because not only have i had it enough times, but i also have given it to myself enough times! thanx. Reply to this Question
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reader, mum2be +, writes (15 March 2007):
mum2be is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, you have been so helpful! I will let you all know when i have had the baby, and i'll keep you all updated as to how i get along. Dr. Pete, my baby is due in 5 weeks, on the 19th of April!
Thanks again, you guys are great!
all the best
xxx
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (14 March 2007):
 You dont need to find a father figure for your baby,as long as you love him/her,thats all that counts.
Do you have a dad or brothers?if so then dont you think that they will be there for your baby? You just enjoy your life with your baby and if you meet someone who you later feel could love your child as much as you then thats a bonus,but if not now you will later.
I wish you all the best sweety.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): mum2be, you seem a lot older than 15 in your answers and the advice you give!
A father figure is somewhat important to a developing child but that doesn't mean you necessarily need to have a full-time dad around. Male role-models can take on the form of friends, grand-parents, god-parents and male teachers. I'm sure if you don't have a dependable male role-model right now that you will in the future, you never what people will come in to your life and what situations will present themselves. When is your baby due, all the best with the pregnancy :)
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (14 March 2007):
 Dont look,when the time is right, Mr Right will come along. All you children need is you, be the best mother you can and your children will be fine. When you least expect it the right man will come a long at the right time.
Take Care
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): Don't go out there looking for a father for your child for a start. If you do meet someone in the future then you are looking for a partner through life for yourself then latterly a fatherly figure for your child. I won't lecture you cos i got pregnant at the age of 17 but i had an abortion. No way was i mature enough to consider having a baby. But you can do it. There are some brilliant single mums out there who go on to be brilliant career women as well. Don't think for one minute that you need to go through life bringing up a child with a bloke. If you meet a one and he loves you and the child then that is a bonus but don't go looking for one solely as a father.
Take care, keep in touch, let us know what you have.
xx
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reader, chachacha +, writes (14 March 2007):
I would just concentrate on giving your child all the love you can, and gathering as much support as you can, from your family and your friends.
No specific "father figure" is necessary. And you won't have time for dating as you'll need all your energy and all your love for the child, and in due course, for supporting yourself and your child financially.
Try to involve your own parents, grandparents, siblings, neighbours, and friends in the upbringing of your child.
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