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writes:What type o sex do you guys like? as in, do you like it rough, kinky etc? I want to know how to give great sex for when i find my next guy...thankx for your help(I know other people have more serious concerns, but i am just curious!) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Hon, all guys like different things. You just have to find out what he likes, get to know him for a while first, and discuss these things. But please, please, wait a few years before you do this. You're too young to be having sex anyway, there's a lot of responsibility to be taken in terms of contraception etc (which by the way does not always work). Are you prepared to be a mum at your age? Or be on medication for an STD for the rest of your life?? Boys, especially at your age, don't always like to use contraception and you also need to know how to use them properly and what kind of birth control pill to take.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): Well, you do understand that if you consider enough people you will get every possible answer?I think the best advice is to find a boy you have a real relationship with first and then communicate with him. If you want specific technique advice then ok, but really at your age no expects you to be perfect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): Girl, you need to grow up and stop disrespecting yourself. Stop thinking about what boys want and think about yourself. I hope your taking birth control and using condoms and just so you know condoms are not 100% effective. If you end up with an STD you will be sorry. Your not mature enough to have sex you question shows that. You don’t even have a boyfriend. Before sleeping with someone you should have a steady boyfriend and even them your too young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): You are too young to be asking this question, and the fact that you are asking how to please a guy with what type of sex when you find your next one is telling us that you are under the misquided belief that is what it takes to get a boyfriend. You couldn't be more wrong.
If you want a boyfriend you need to be more concerned with being a friend, someone he can trust and respect, not a girl who would give up sex just to get him as a boyfriend. Guys may act like that is what they are after and they are, but it will not make him want to be your boyfriend, he will only think of you as a slutty girl that he can have sex with and dump down the road....it isn't fair that it is so, but that is the way it works and always has.
You are too young to be having sex at age 13-15 and 16-19. Did you know you are at a greater risk of contracting cervical cancer if you have sex before you are fully mature, as is around age 20 or 21? Google risk factors for cervical cancer and read up. Condoms do not protect a girl from contracting cervical cancer. I work with a 19 year old girl who has been diagnosed with cervical cancer, she has had only 2 sex partners.
Not to mention that you are not emotionally ready to handle the consequences of sex and how vulnerable it makes one feel. You are not mature enough or financiall independent so if you wind up with an unwanted pregnancy it will end your childhood and can ruin your chances to achieve any of your goals in life. It is not worth it to have sex to possibly die, ruin your life all to get some immature boy that will not stick around after you give him some sex....now is it? Go get interested in finding out who you are and what you can contribute to the world and get your mind off this topic...you have plenty of time to grow up and fall in love, and then maybe you will be ready for the responsibilities that come along with being sexually active, and hopefully it will be a loving experience for you and not about whay kind of sex it is, kinky or otherwise.
Please wait until you are mature enough to understand what you are asking for.
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