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writes:I received a big parcel this week which had my name on it and some woman's name was on it.I thought it was from my cousin since it had the same name, and yes, she had done this sort of thing before.But when I checked the handwriting after opening the parcel, it wasn't hers.The parcel contained some rather X-rated gifts; a leather thong, handcuffs, and a mask and a sexy photo of some red-haired woman I didn't recognize in a leather bikini.Presumably the woman who sent it.Not my cousin, as she's blonde and I only saw her a week ago. I'd have known if she changed her hair colour, which she hasn't!!!!I wondered who would be sending me this sort of thing and how they got my address?I showed my wife and she was furious; she accused me of having an affair, wouldn't believe my explanation that it was a mistake.As it stands... I feel guilty for not checking the present properly and embarrassed.My wife has told me there will be no sex for a week due to this, and won';t believe my explanations.She doesn't normally do sex bans so this is quite extreme.How can I ever resolve this situation and point out it was an innocent mistake?I don't have another woman so how could this have happened; what's the best explanation logically for things?How can I resolve this with my wife and point out there's nothing dodgy going on?What should I do with the package now?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2022): No way is this the brushing scam, where they send innocent vey cheap things. This was a few expensive things together, and there was a photo of a woman, a company that is after fake reviews would not include so much or the photo. They could get the review far cheaper.
Maybe your wife sent it to you so that she could impose a sex ban, it was her way of getting out of having sex with you for a while.
Your mistake is to defend yourself and try to prove you are innocent, as if you are in the wrong. If someone accuses you of something you did not do you turn it around and have a go at them for accusing you. By defending yourself it makes you sound guilty.
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reader, RitaBrown +, writes (28 May 2022):
Two explanations for your anonymous parcel.
A) It's a brushing scam. Do a Google search and read up about them. Basically, a seller who wants to raise their online profile makes false buyer accounts using the misappropriated data of real people. They then make a purchases using these false accounts and give their own products/company a positive review. Perhaps you should look into your online security. Luckily, with this type of scam there is no financial cost to you but the company that delivered the parcel (Amazon, Royal Mail etc) will want to know that their company is being used for fraudulent purposes .
B) The parcel has been sent maliciously by someone who wants to cause trouble for you and/or your girlfriend. Which means it's going to be from someone either one of you knows. And it's against the law to send malicious packages in the UK so you should discuss this matter with the police on their non-emergency number.
Now you might think "Well, it's only happened once, I can't be bothered to call the Police or Amazon (or whoever)" but doing this might indicate to your girlfriend that this parcel was genuinely unsolicited and unwanted by you.
And as for the items themselves, if they're new... Resell them and pocket the cash. If it were me I'd buy toilet paper with the proceeds. Then whichever idiot sent me the parcel could kiss my ass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2022): I think it's a scam and you will find that you will be expected to pay for it soon.
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reader, Stoneruby  +, writes (28 May 2022):
 Oh wow. how odd. The first thing that springs to mind is could it be you have an troublesome admirer hoping to stir up trouble in hope of breaking your relationship up for their own benefit? The picture is probably a bogus random. Otherwise making themselves known, risky when i pretty sure in this day and age its very easy to find out a persons relationship status. Have you pissed anyone, male or female off in recent or past times that may have done it as an act of payback?
I can understand why your wife is angry and responded in such as way when she suspects cheating however you showing her suggests to me you are telling her the truth.
images.google.com ,never used it myself so im not sure if it works or not but I think you can up upload a picture for your pc and see where it came from, worth a try and Id be doing it with your wife by your side so she can see its all above board. As for what to do with it....first Id take a photo in case of any issues that may arise from it in the future, eg psyco sender, pack it up and return to sender, the post will either know where it came from or get rid of it, you get rid of it or try make light of it and keep it for you and your wife if thats your thing. Hope you get some answers because it would drive me crazy mot knowing the who and why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2022): Somebody may be playing a trick on you. Some guys think it's funny to make their friends get in trouble with their wife.
There are internet companies that actually do this. You give them some money and the name of a person, then they send something like this out.
Even Amazon has some similar things.
Receiving something in the mail doesn't make you guilty. Your wife should understand this.
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