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writes:HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPMy sexual fantasy is to have a threesome with a hot guy and my girlfriend, but I am too shy to tell her, she is very religious... but it turns me on the idea of she being with another man...Is that normal? what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): I too was deeply religious in my younger days. I'm now 31 and happily married. My husband a few years back told me of his fantasy for a MFM threesome. I was at first shocked and and to be really honest hurt. I went through all the emotions that he didn't love me after all otherwise he wouldn't be able to ask this. But over time I accepted that he had fantasies and that's normal and it didn't worry me at all.
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reader, all-loved-up!  +, writes (29 December 2010):
don't you think that she would be offended if you asked this? I've been asked this before and it made me feel small and that my boyfriend wants to see me with another guy, it made me feel that he saw me other than his girlfriend and someone he respects! Please don't preasure her in to it atleast x
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reader, IKnowWhatIWanTButDoThey +, writes (29 December 2010):
 Okay, first... NO, you are not normal...But it's okay, because everyone is a little weird ;) ..Two, only YOU know how your girlfriend is.. You know if asking this kind of question will offend her (and I'm guessing, if she's as religious as you say she either:
1. Inside her head, WANTS to be more wild and is just waiting for the opportunity to bust out.
2. Really is all about the lord, in which case, it'll probably be best for you to forget it.
or
3. Just doesn't dig the idea of a threesome..even if it is in her favor, with another guy...she might not be able to handle that...it really all depends on how much sexual activity she's had...
So the best thing for YOU to do, if you're just DYING of curiosity, "swallow your balls" and ask her how she feels about having a 3some...but if it's just some passing fantasy I say, you let sleeping dogs lie... =P
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (29 December 2010):
Very risky for the relationship. Proceed with caution if you really care about this girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): Are you both sexually active with each other? If not, she may not go for it.There's a possiblity you might lose her if you force her to do this kind of activity. She may be put off by it and may even just tell you off or worse, end it with you. I don't know her at all, so it's just my guess.But talk with her. See what fantasies, if any, she's had in regards to sexual fantasy. See what she thinks about threesomes. Remember, you don't know until you communicate. And, don't sound so enthused because then she may think that you want to do the fantasy more than you care most about her.Good luck my friend! : )
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reader, NicoleMarie +, writes (29 December 2010):
 It's normal. everyone has a sexual fantasy. Maybe you could just tell her straight up about your fantasy. Who knows she might actually be into it. I'm sure she has a fantasy too, maybe you could both just sit down and discuss it. Good Luck.Hope I helped. :)
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reader, NicoleMarie +, writes (29 December 2010):
It's normal. everyone has a sexual fantasy. Maybe you could just tell her straight up about your fantasy. Who knows she might actually be into it. I'm sure she has a fantasy too, maybe you could both just sit down and discuss it. Good Luck.Hope I helped. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): Remove your emotion and do your best to make a logical decision here. Relationships and threesomes are highly discouraged because of emotional involvement and potential risk of jealousy and other issues that have been discussed on this site. Good luck.
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