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writes:I don't know exactly what I'm asking here, but I'll try to explain it. It's been a while since I've been in a relationship, about a year, and I don't really feel particularly lonely (although I would love to meet someone nice). My problem is that I'm having trouble with my sexual urges. I can't stop thinking about sex. I don't know how to stop this, or at least control it a little better. Sorry, I know this is kind of vague, thanks for your time! Reply to this Question
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (27 September 2009):
Your hormones are probably alot to blame. I was celibate for nearly five years and sometimes I thought it'd kill me! I did notice it was worse at certain times of my menstrual cycle - especially ovulation and just before my period was due. Knowing there was a normal "biological" for it made it a little easier to cope with (and ensure that I'd have new batteries for the vibrator at the right time!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot for the tips, they were very thoughtful and I appreciate them greatly.
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reader, rcn +, writes (25 September 2009):
 It's okay to desire. What is harmful is when that desire gets out of control. I was single for over 3 1/2 years, and refrained from sex during that time. I did that by choice to learn to respect what I didn't have. What I found most during this time is the general lack of respect people have for each other.
Between the 18 and 21, which is your age? I can almost bet these urges are because you're peeking out. The sexual prime, some call it. It doesn't mean you'll lose interest in sex soon, just that your intense urges will decrease. There's a period of going from puberty to full maturity, which hormones get a bit out of whack. This varies depending on the person, but it does not mean you are going to be an out of control sex addict either. In the mean time do what you need to to control your urges. Find a hobby. (non sexual) In time these will start to calm down.
Don't make decision that will cause you long term harm by giving into the urges. One evening or the 5 minutes it takes him can be life changing to you. Take care.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (25 September 2009):
 I'm single, male, 25, and I just got out of a relationship where I ate her for three years and she kept promising that she'd return the favor some time, but ultimately didnt.
If you figure out how to control your urges, let me know because mine are going crazy too.
All I can offer is that it's normal.
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