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writes:I'm a 15 years old and I don't remember the last time I was truly happy. Sure, I laugh and I smile but I can't remember what true happiness is like. I haven't felt it in a long time.I don't have a bad life, I think I am a good looking girl and I have great friends and family but I think there is something I am suffering of but I'm not sure what it is.I have had two serious boyfriends in my life, and I have let my life revolve around them both times. They both treated me like dirt and I just let them walk all over me and they both took a year of my life away from me. I was pregnant with my second boyfriends child but I aborted it. Ever since then I have held my puppy like a baby and it still hurts sometimes and I think about it at least once a day, but it never seemed to really effect my life. I feel like I have to control everything in my life and I have jealously and rage issues and I can't seem to let things go very easily. It seems people continue to let me down all the time and I feel hopeless. Ever since my Abortion, I have extreme issues about my weight. I obess over my weight all the time and I think I am an eating disorder waiting to happen.Sure there are things in my life that have got me down, but they have never really seemed to effect me in a way. Is it possible that they effect me each day but I don't know it? Do I have a disorder? I need help people...
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 September 2009):
 I agree that you sound like you are depressed. Don't fake it, talk to your parents and get medical help.
A LOT of women fall into depression after having an abortion, that is really "normal", it is not something you "just" get over. I hope you get some help. I would look up and see if there are any teen hot lines and try that if you feel like you can't talk to your parents. Go from there.
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reader, Candleman +, writes (25 September 2009):
 There are many things that could be causing your pain right now. Ask you parents to take you to see a therapist. There is nothing wrong with seeing a therapist. I have had problems in my past and a therapist was able to help. They will talk with you and go over your life. Their goal is to identify what is bothering you, then help you get over what is bothering you. First off, I am not a therapist, however,one thing I noticed about your question is that your abortion immediately jumps out as something that could be causing your problem. I went to a website you may want to check out at www.afterabortion.org It is filled with info and support.... One of the things I found is that women who have an abortion for their first pregnancy were 65% more likely to be clinically depressed than women who had given birth to their first child. Go to this site or other support groups and share your experiences and meet the 1000's of other girls who share this same experience. Keep in mind there could other things that a trained psychologist/psychiatrist may be able to indentify and help you with. Please go and see one. I've listed below what a psychologist would use to diagnose you for depression. See if you fit the description.According to DSM-IV, the diagnostic manual from American Psychiatric Association, criteria used by mental health professionals, you have Major Depressive Disorder if: You have had an episode of depression lasting at least two weeks with at least five of the following symptoms: (1) You are depressed, sad, blue, tearful. (2) You have lost interest or pleasure in things you previously liked to do. (3) Your appetite is much less or much greater than usual and you have lost or gained weight. (4) You have a lot of trouble sleeping or sleep too much. (5) You are so agitated, restless, or slowed down that others have begun to notice. (6) You are tired and have no energy. (7) You feel worthless or excessively guilty about things you have done or not done. (8) You have trouble concentrating, thinking clearly, or making decisions. (9) You feel you would be better off dead or have thoughts about killing yourself. These symptoms are severe enough to upset your daily routine, or to seriously impair your work, or to interfere with your relationships. The depression does not have a specific cause like alcohol, drugs, medication side effect, or physical illness. Your depression is not just a normal reaction to the death of a loved one. Remember even if you do not meet all the criteria, you should go and see a therapist. I just listed this info for your consideration.Good Luck to You
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