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*ayleighcouture
writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for over 1 year now and I love him to bits. But today, he hit me with a bombshell: "Youre so f***ing boring." I understand where hes coming from: I dont know what to talk about and basically, I crumble in social situations. I just need ideas on how to be interesting and how to make aspects of my life interesting. Please, I NEED help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): well the cheeky sod!!! what are you still with him for?if my boyfriend said that to me i dont think i could stay with him, knowing he found be boring. You are not boring, just because he doesnt find any interest. find yourself someone who has an interest in you for yourself, not how they want you to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): Take an art class or a yoga session- try something that you have never done before. Just try to put yourself out there more and that way you'll have more to talk about with him. Volunteer at an animal shelter or church. Read the news online and see what is going on in other parts of the world, look up funny videos on youtube, or just do something spontaneous like bake cookies for him or write a poem for him. Make sure to see your own friends as well and have a girls night. While your bf should be encouraging you and not putting you down, maybe he just wants to to develop your own interests besides just hanging out with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): Tell him he should have found a more interesting way to tell you that - swearing only shows a lack of capacity for understanding other language. :)
And if it bothers your boyfriend so much, he should be boasting your self-esteem and encouraging you so that you feel more comfortable and better able to function in social situations, not putting you down. This should be an equal relationship, not based around you trying to prove yourself to him.
Basically, please try and get this idiot out of your life. You seem like a sweet girl and you deserve far better than him.
xx
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (22 November 2009):
 One simple solution is to read the newspapers either the real news or all the celebrity gossip rubbish. There is always something in there that can form the basis of a conversation. The newspapers will even give you an opinion if you don't have one of your own.
Having said that, don't stay with a boy who talks to you that way.
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reader, texas_princess  +, writes (22 November 2009):
 Pick up some new hobbies, venture out and do new things. Be busy some of the time when he wants to hang out and make him WANT you and MISS you. In a social situation... ALWAYS smile, ALWAYS listen to people and don't just focus on him. Be a social butterfly, ask some other people that are in your group something about themselves, people love to talk about themselves =) Good luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 November 2009):
You love this guy! Well I admire your loyalty, because for him to say that shows how much of an ass he is. No caring boyfriend say that. The idea of loving someone is that you love them for who they are. If he doesn't love you for who you are, get away from him. It's not about you changing, it's about him accepting you because YOU ARE YOU! Don't ever change for someone, escpecialy for someone like him.
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reader, xynebrutalis +, writes (22 November 2009):
 Honestly if he doesnt find you interesting just as you are, then hes not worth your time. If you have a hard time being social, find other things to do that are interesting that don't involve talking. Example, if hes a gamer, take interest and play games with him. Anything to avoid uncomfortable silences. And another thing, coming from a guys point of view, if he asks you what you want to do, don't say its up to you, or anything related to that. Tell him something that you want to do. But I do feel obligated to tell you that if you love him and he says those kind of things to you, he obviously does not feel the same way. Hope this helps you.
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