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writes:I am a 19 year old girl in college. I enjoy hanging out with friends, trying new things, participating in clubs, but my question is about the party scene. I enjoy going to parties- dancing, drinking, hanging out, etc. However, I always hear stories about how this friend met these awesome people, how that friend met a guy who is going to tell her about future parties, or how yet another friend was 'the girl of the party'. I don't really have any fun stories about my weekend night adventures. How can I be more approachable to guys at a party? What can I do to make them talk to me, and actually have a conversation with me? I feel like I am an approachable person.. I dance, say hi to random people, talk to people at the keg, always smile. Yet they always turn to talk to other people, or another girl.How can I hold their attention, and just be laid back and easy going? How can I just be chill? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Depends what kind of parties they are. In my experience, the big clubs are herd for people to meet as it is just hard to have a conversation. I say go to parties where people can dance but there are quiet spots for conversations.
if you think someone is interesting, start the conversation with a question? As long as you keep going to parties and have a good time at parties people will note your good vibes and want to talk to you.
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reader, collegeboy33 +, writes (6 December 2010):
 just be yourself it will happen don't rush things but, at the same time don't be a pain in the ass. what I do when i go out is have a good sense of humor but, don't overdue it and guys love a female when they are quiet then come out of your shell then you draw the guy in and keep them interested in what you are talking about.you do that you will be good good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!1
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 I'm not entirely sure there's a problem here.
I say that you should just keep doing what you're doing, keep going to parties and talk to as many people as you can. Stop listening to stories, they're probably embellished anyways.
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reader, sarahlynn +, writes (6 December 2010):
 you seem like a very nice person. That is great that your friends have funny stories but maybe that is just not you. Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. You are in college now and I know that partying is a big thing but it is not the only reason you are in college. There are so many other decent places to meet guys then at parties: nice, emotionally mature men:) Maybe you are not cut out for that stuff, but college is where you find YOUR groove, and stop trying to fit in with others. You are a grown woman and will attract the right men with your quiet, beautiful, mature, sweet, caring nature: not the party animal that you are temporarily aiming at. If partying is really what you wanna do, people like it if you are loud and funny, so look up some good jokes online. Just type in naughty jokes, and, trust me, some funny and crude jokes that are sure to entertain everyone will be there. People like entertainment, so keep good eye contact, pronunciate your words, and use your body:) Sometimes if you just see a guy you wanna meet, go up to him, and dont just say hi, say something catchy or stupid or completely ridiculously dramatic like, "oh my gosh! you're drinking beer? so am I!" He knows you're joking, and so do you(as long as you make it obvious) and he'll know that you have a sense of humor. hope this helps somewhat
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Go approach them. We men are, it is hard to approach woman (any guy who says it isn't is a liar; I guess the more practice the better).
I get approach by girls on occasions, and I love it. Makes it so much easier. Cause you know they are interested.
Like once I was at a department store, trying on shoes. And this hot girl (at least 2 years older than me; I was 20 at the time) approached me asking "Do you go hiking?", cause I was wearing shoes that kinda looked like hiking shoes. And like an IDIOT, I said "No.". And then she sarcastically said "Ohh...thanks!". But what I heard was "Thanks you stupid. Couldn't you tell I was trying to start a conversation and flirt with you!". So even when I get approached, I can still mess it up. Ohh well...
I wish women wear t-shirts saying "I'm single. Come and ask me on a date!". Would be a lot easier.
It's a good thing you smile. Keep on smiling and enjoy yourself. And think about wearing the t-shirt. XD
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