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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for a month on wednesday. We met about a month and a half before we actually got together, and our personalities just clicked right away. It's a long distance relationship at the moment with plans to move closer to each other eventually (preferably in with each other).Now, lately he's been really distant. Like.. when we first started together, we would take for hours on end. But now sometimes it takes an hour just to get a reply because he's playing video games or watching television. He used to actually stop doing those things to speak to me, but now he'll actually start them up mid-conversation.He's told me many times that he's sure he wants to be with me in the future, but he hasn't said anything like that in about a week. We used to speak on webcam daily, but we haven't done that either. At the beginning of the week, he also saw that I had wider hips than he was probably expecting me to have, (and he said that he likes them... but with my self-esteem I can't help but doubt it.) During that same day, he found out that he has a bunch of exams due this weekend (which he's been working on off and on between doing video games and movies) - he's particularly stressed because he plays Wow and wants to finish his work before the new expansion comes out on tuesday.During this time, I haven't had a decent conversation with him. Whenever he's not doing schoolwork, he's playing games or watching movies. He's online the whole time, but doesn't actually speak to me much.What I want to know is: -I'm assuming him being distant is due to stress from schoolwork and the expansion 'deadline'?-Does him playing video games instead of speaking to me for nearly a week solid mean that he's bored with me already, or am I being clingy? I haven't directly addressed him about it yet, but I miss talking to him... (He's told me in the past that there will be times that he will withdraw into games (his stress-reliever) and not really talk... but is it normal for the 'Alone time' stuff to last a week? -It makes me wonder if he's happy in the relationship... should I just ask "Are you happy with me?" or would that scare him? Is there another way I can find out without being too obvious?What I plan to do is... nothing, really. If he wants to talk to me, I'll be there so he can... If he's still acting distant after his finals are over and the buzz from the new release has worn off.. I don't know. ^^;; Apply the above questions, I suppose.
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reader, Fluffyone +, writes (6 December 2010):
Fluffyone is verified as being by the original poster of the question I'll see how he is today... if it doesn't let up by the time his finals are over, I'll talk to him more directly about it. I'm assuming it has to do with stress relief from those... thanks for your opinion. Very helpful, especially since you can relate. :3
I have actually, but there's the money issue at the moment - wouldn't be able to afford the monthly membership... but I've started up Starcraft II, which he plays too, and that's fun to play with him. (And I really like playing it.)
Weird. That's really weird - small world. xD I'm happy I don't have the worry of cheating, at least. @@
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Just a thought, but have you considered joining him on WoW?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-being-too-paranoid-do-i-have.html
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Well, this reminds me of a situation I was in. Online and all.
Hopefully I can help you out so you don't make the mistake I did.
My guy, he did the video games for a week without talking. And I hated it. It's awful when you want to talk to your guy, and you wait every day for him to come online, and he never shows. You really REALLY need to talk to him about this. No subtle hints, just straight out talking. If you two are going to last as a couple, you're going to need to get your communication skills sharpened.
You don't sound clingy at all to me, it's reasonable to want your boyfriend to pay attention to you. I really suggest you talk to him about this though, it's the only way you'll really know.
On a side note, I had the same thing with the hips, he told me that he thought mine were wide, and he was crazy for him.
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reader, Fluffyone +, writes (6 December 2010):
Fluffyone is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, I haven't met him in person. Weird, chancey, I realize full well. I just know for a fact he's not some guy living in his mother's basement. xD He's proven it. Webcam helps, haha, among other things.
He actually apologized for being distant just a couple hours ago, so he realized what he was doing at least without me having to mention it, which makes me feel a lot better.
As for the clingyness...I'm gonna work on that part. xD
Thanks for your input. :3
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (6 December 2010):
Well he could be busy... You could be being a tad clingy... maybe its a combination of both. Who knows. That's the problem with LDR's, the distance and uncertainty.
I'm confused though, have you actually met this guy in person ever?
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