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writes: hi aunts and uncles im looking for a bit of advice from people with experiance of this. My fiance works A LOT he often does 12-14 hour days which means i barely see him. i usually feel him climb into the bed in the middle of the night. i know hes at work (not cheating or anything) but i find it so difficult being on my own a lot.He bought me a kitten last week to keep me company he dosnt relise i need human contact. i suffer from a heart and blood desease which limits what i can do in life, im not allowed out of the house unsuperivsed as i faint a lot as a common sympton of my illness. i think im starting to go stir crazy in this house on my own. i finshed my diploma in childcare but with this illness i can not work which has made me depressed that i worked that hard for seemingly nothing. my fiance is training to be a doctor and i support him in every way because its what he wants but im so lonely. we used to have such a passoniate bond but now he is distant. i dont know what to do or how to reconnect with him. does anyone else have a parnter whp works away/ long hours ....how do you cope?thanks for listening x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): I will say the best possible solution will be to talk to your partner.Tell him how you feel and how his coming home late is affecting you.Remind him that you want the best for him and you will always support him in everything that he does.Tell him that you feel lonely.
My husband is also works and he also studies after work so he comes home very late sometimes, i so it becoming a problem i sat down with him a told him how i felt about him coming home late.I now somedays he comes home early and in some he comes late.
I believe talking to him will help you.Tell him you are behind him in everything that he is doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): I will say the best possible solution will be to talk to your partner.Tell him how you feel and how his coming home late is affecting you.Remind him that you want the best for him and you will always support him in everything that he does.Tell him that you feel lonely.
My husband is also works and he also studies after work so he comes home very late sometimes, i so it becoming a problem i sat down with him a told him how i felt about him coming home late.I now somedays he comes home early and in some he comes late.
I believe talking to him will help you.Tell him you are behind him in everything that he is doing.
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (28 June 2009):
 Do you have friends you could ask to come over when hes working? I have to also sit around waiting for my boyfriend to come home for ten hours five days a week and i can symptathise with you, it completely sucks. I fill my day with watching films, i dont know if your as big a film fanatic as i am, but it helps me! I'd advice you find something you love to do, e.g watch films, write, draw. And if you have friends local, ask them to drop by and visit! Can your boyfriend not reduce the hours he works at all? Its important you spend time together, else its not gonna work at all! Talk to him about it, find out if theres any way he can spend more time with you.
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