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writes:my boyfriend said he is going to put his studies and career on top of me. And he would leave me if he has to study abroad. How am I supposed to feel that he doesn't spare a thought for my feelings? We've been together for 19 months. He spends lesser time with me now that we've gotten tgt foe quite awhile, meet only once a week. And he did not even give me anything for my birthday and Valentines except for a card on Valentines. But how cld he not care about my birthday? I'm really sad that he didn't even make the effort to plan anything for my birthday. We just had dinner and headed home.. he claims that he's the unromantic sort and he doesnt do sweet stuff..I love buying things for him, surprising him n all sorts but hr doesn't even appreciate by saying thanks or mentioning about it. Is there any way to make a guy romantic or sweet to his girlfriend? I really want a sweet boyfriend. We get along v well and talk a lot. I even told him to be sweeter n he said that I'm demanding when I'm just asking him for a card. How? Is this guy worth staying for? I really love him but sometimes I feel that we spend too lil time tgt but due to school work. But i find that he prioritizes his activities instead of me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Auntie5  +, writes (21 February 2011):
You deserve someone loving, who values you, cares about making you happy, and appreciates the things you do to make him happy. Yet, he will not change; he will always be "unromantic" & accuse you of being demanding when you ask him to meet your needs. I know it's hard to think about when you love someone, but it sounds as if you need to move on so you can find the man you're meant to be with.
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reader, lisahorn_1  +, writes (21 February 2011):
I have been in the exact same spot, and I'm still struggling to figure out what to do. He clearly does not value you in his life, if he is willing to just up and leave. I'm not sure if men like this can change, and actually appreciate what they have or not. Perhaps you should take a break, and see how he reacts to being apart from you? If he acts like he's not hurt, and doesn't want you back then maybe it is time to move on and find someone who does truly care for you the way you deserve to be cared for.
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