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writes:I've known that somebody in my school has been attracted to me, and I have come to say for myself that I am attracted as well. However, I can say myself that I am a shy person and my ' crush ' is shy person (We usually talk to each other and get along well). It's difficult to proceed for myself as I am notably shy around others and have a sort of fear about asking her out. How should I proceed?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (6 February 2017):
 Baby steps. Don't rush in with anything dramatic - and scary - like "will you be my girlfriend?". As you two already talk and get on well, you will have an idea what this girl's interests are. Is there a film you would both like to see? If so, suggest going to see it. Don't make a big deal of it, so that she doesn't panic and decline. Just say casually "That film looks like it could be a good laugh. Shall we go to see it next week-end?" Then it is just a friendly invite and nothing for either of you to worry about. You will just be going with a friend and there is no pressure to even talk because you will be watching the film. Afterwards suggest grabbing a coffee or a bite to eat so you can chat about the film. Don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself by pushing things too quickly. Just enjoy going out with a friend and let things progress naturally.Good luck.
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reader, AskCatherine  +, writes (5 February 2017):
Hi, i kind of understand how you must feel. I am an extremely shy person too, dont really speak to anyone. But if you both are getting along well with one another already.. why dont you just ask them. Im sure that they would appreciate you taking the first step, because they may be too shy to ask you.
If you are really really worried, just try remember to breathe slowly, and think of the benefits for afterwards.
Good luck :)
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