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writes:Well i aint to sure whats going on here. I have a guy mate who yes i do like, Ive never thought of us than anymore than mates however other people and myself have noticed he doesnt exactlly act the same with me as anyone else. There are many girls that like him so it cant be because he knows i like him. Espeically since theres one girls tats totally in love with him and he dont like her that way at all hes still fine with her however she has spread a lot of stuff around about me and him. Hes said in the past he loves me as a mate so why act weird... Heres just afew of the things:If i say something in clas thats funy and everyone starts laughing he wont, however if someone else had said it he would have done cuz he always does.He used to stare at me alot, he doesnt do it as much now but he does still do it.He doesnt really talk to many people on msn ut if we do talk i have to be the one to say hi first and when the convo goes dead i have to start it back up, he wont do it.He sits next to me in class yet he never really speaks to me.The communication is just beyond weird as sometimes he wil be the normal guy he is and talk about anything yet other times he just wont talk to me. Yet hes a very big headed kinda guy lol i wouldnt say hes confident but he always finds something to say.He is slightly different with me out of college lke he will talk to me abit more but not much, its barely what you would call normal.Sometimes espeically in class if i talk to him tis like he wont make conversation with me not matter what i try.people have said he seems to like me before fromt eh way he acts but tbh whenever hes seen a girl he likes or finds attractive hes confident with her providing she gives im the attention as well, i suppose i have slipped up there because im kinda shy.Hes a pretty decent guy gets on with anyone even people he really dont like but why say we;re good mates if its like this.
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reader, The Pokemon Trainer  +, writes (25 November 2009):
 He said he likes you as a friend? Well, that's a pretty clear signal. Wankers and Casanovas alike will generally try to avoid the friend zone at all costs, so it's a pretty safe bet if guy puts himself in the friend zone that he's not interested in anything beyond that. Though it is true some guys will try to feign disinterest to sneak under the radar, it sounds like this guy just isn't interested. If he doesn't intitiate you and you have to struggle to keep the conversation going, it's a bad sign.
Do you want to attract this man for something more? Well, try being more forward. One thing guys wish a woman would do is take a bit more initiative. Flirt a little, and wear clothes that are slightly more seductive. If he really likes you (and he's not a pussy) he'll take an opportunity to get to know you on a more intimate level. It doesn't matter if he's shy or not. If he likes you but doesn't take the opportunity anyway, he's not a real man and you don't want a guy like that. As a last ditch effort, you could tell him that you're seeing someone, and watch him react. You may both be surprised to find some deep, hidden feelings very suddenly come to his surface. If he seems shocked or off set a little, he actually be deeply interested. You never really know how much you love someone until you lose them, and when you present that fact that you may not always be there, he may just take action to make you his.
If that all fails, you can just be honest with him about how you feel. Guys don't pick up on subtle hints that women throw at them. The more straight forward, the better. But if you ask me, you should find a man who shows more enthusiasm in you.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (25 November 2009):
 either he likes you and is trying to not be clingy and not let you know how he feels, or he used to like you and now doesn't.
It's a toghie, I'll grant you that.
Good luck, though
xx
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reader, Kendra0589 +, writes (25 November 2009):
 Girl me are unpredictable! It seems to me like he likes you but his ego is getting the best of him. Men don't sometimes don't want to come off as being "soft" or "clingy" so they try to play it cool. However he could be the type that has his ways. I call those type of people "sometiming" which means they act a certain way one day and they next they're totally different. I don't want you to play games but if you want to see what's up with this guy I suggest you do what he's doing. Don't say anything to him one day don't speak don't do anything and see how he reacts. I gurantee he will spark up a conversation!! :)
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