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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while and his mom seems to always be butting into our relationship. In our first few months of dating, she already tried to break us up because she was jealous that there was a second woman in his life. (she didn't succeed.) I held a really long grudge against her for a while but eventually stopped. She tried to break us three more times, and failed each time. one time i actually had to talk to her one-on-one to see why she was doing all this and she simply told me that my boyfriend was getting farther away from her and she didn't like that. Now she's trying to warm up to me and i can see her trying, but she's lost my trust and i find myself over-analyzing whatever she does to my boyfriend. What should I do to help myself get over this old, annoying grudge?
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 It sounds like his Mother had problems letting her son go. she was probably hurt and scared. So naturally she hated the thing that was taking her boy away from him. Which is you.
It seems now that she is sorry and is trying to make up. I know it is hard but you should put this behind you. It will only destroy your relationship with your boyfriend.
Some Mothers and Fathers have a hard time letting go. His Mother had taken his growing up the wrong way. She has let go...now you need to let go of what happened.
I can understand you are hurt and don`t trust her but it will be better for you to forgive her and let it go.
Good Luck!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 March 2010):
Well at least she's warming to you, which is better than before. That's a good sign, Talking to her one to one was the best thing and the most mature thing you could have done. Now she doesn't see you as a threat, she sees you as a friend. So within reason, just get to know her more. Be wary and careful, but this is now the time to be mature once more and get to know her.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Question? How old are you? How old is your boyfriend? Is the mom divorced? I'll get back to you.
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