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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for about 10 months and care deeply about him and feel like i know him inside out, as he does with me. as a boyfriend, he is faultless - never cheats, he takes me out, buys me things, phones me daily and constantly tells me he loves me. however, he has a physical problem which means that sex is extremely painful. it means he never wants to do it with me, and his misery about it means he doesnt even seem to get very turned on or kiss me/touch me any more. naughty passionate quickies are rare and end in misery and even tears because he is in pain and i feel guilty. he had an operation to widen what they thought was a stricture, but it seems to have gone back to how it was. please help! im soo attracted to him physically and am sexually frustrated, but i adore him as a person so much that breaking up with him would break my heart.
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reader, Artemesian  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 Sounds like he really needs to see more doctors about what can be done - that sort of thing is meant to be fixable. Maybe he is shy about seeing more doctors about it, you could offer to go along with him. The main thing though is to enjoy what you can do - actual intercourse is only part of the deal ; ) Once his problem is fixed it will have been well worth the wait and he will respect and love you all the more for being there with him through it.
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reader, Beckto  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Would he be interested in pleasuring you? Like oral sex? Give him a full-body massage in return.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Hi hun,
This must be extremley hard for you as its natural to wnat to make love to the man you love, however if it is a medical condition he really needs to get more help...he is only young darling and must be hard for him too...
In the mean time try other things that can stimulate you both I know its not the same but hey its much better than nothing babes....
Hop this has helped darling
Good luck
Loe Donna xx
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Can he go and see a doctor and see if they can suggest anything?
If sex is painful why not try other things aside intercourse. Like oral and massages and things like that. It may not be full blown sex but may be less painful for him. Also the more he's played with the more he will get used to the movement so that'll mean less pain right???
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