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writes:I've been with the same boyfriend for over a year. Over the past few months, our sex drive has steeply decline to where we barely kiss or even hug anymore. Tonight in talking about it he admitted that one of the reasons for this is because he doesn't have a desire to be sexual with me because he dislikes his own body. (He's 5'9, weighing around 170 lb) Nothing I say will make him see himself the way I do. Even worse, he's taken to pointing out my own tummy pudge I've developed. (5'3, weighing 113 lb) This makes me feel self conscious and is lowering my self esteem too. We're going in a vicious circle, and he acts like the only way he'll be happy is if he loses a lot of weight... I miss my boyfriend and our sex life. :( How can I get him over this and show him I love him the way he is??
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 Hmm. Well trying to bolster his ego isnt working very well if hes now directing his discontent towards you too! Tell him to stop eating pies if hes not happy with his shape! As hes kindly pointed out that hes also unhappy with your tum, do as suggested here and join a gym and get into healthy eating. Health wise, in the long term he may be doing you both a favour, he just hasnt gone about it very gracefully.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 June 2010):
Why don't you both try going to the gym together.
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 start going to the gym and dragg hist pot bellied behind with you
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