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writes:My bf's never really been a good kisser. I like real french kisses with a lot of tongue action and that's what really gets me going down there (meaning i get wet with a long passionate french kiss.). When he kisses me, it's a lot of kisses on the lps with just a little tongue but no swirling or anything. It turns out that he holds his breath while kissing and has always done that. He just can't breathe while kissing. So there's the issue... Has anyone experienced something like this? I told him to try to breathe but it's hard. And i also don't know How to teach him how to kiss. He's had lots of partners and braggs a little bit. I don't want to hurt his ego but i need this, otherwise im not wet when we start haing sex.
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reader, curious1987  +, writes (24 May 2012):
 I agree that his not necessarily a bad kisser. everyone likes to be kissed differently. Perhaps he doesn't turned on with lits of heavy kissing. u won't know till u ask him what turns him on, then tell him what turns u on, and maybe u can mix the two up a little bit. Good luck. and let us know how it goes. Xx
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 May 2012):
 There are MANY ways for a guy to turn a woman on, besides kissing.
I have to say though a good SNOG can make everything better and IMHO there is nothing worse then a "bad" kisser. But at least that is something that can be improved upon.
I agree with person12345, don't have sex til your body is ready (as in, wet).
http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip/32_love_tip.html
(you may not like all the 10 "zones" described but I'm betting there are quite a few that will get your body going)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 May 2012):
 Does he have a nostril problem that prevents him from breathing through his nose? If not, hold your lips on his in a peck, freeze the position, and see how long he can hold his breath before he starts to breathe with his nose.
And then be vocal! Tell him what sort of kisses get you off, and ask him to do this with you. If breathing is a problem then practice the way I told you. Tell it to him tactfully: Honey, I love to kiss you. But we haven't kissed the way I like it, and I would really like for us to to it my way. It's what gets me going".
A good partner will want to do the things that please their partner. If he's a giver he'll want to do this for you as well. Don't say anything negative about the way he currently kisses.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (23 May 2012):
I don't agree he's necessarily not a good kisser.
You just like it different then him.
At least tell him how you like it. Maybe you guys can meet in the middle.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 May 2012):
 If he can't master the whole breathing and kissing simultaneously thing, can't he just kiss your neck or nibble on your ears for awhile while he catches his breath? You should just tell him how much you LOVE when he kisses like _____. You don't have to criticize him, just tell him what you do like.
Also two things. 1) you shouldn't have sex until you're wet. Would you ask him to have sex before he's hard? 2) you should definitely find other ways to get good foreplay, like fingers or oral instead of relying 100% on kissing.
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (23 May 2012):
 I dont think you really love him. Thats why this fails to turn you on. That, and the fact that you might (subconciosly) be comparing him to other people / a person. That person could just touch you and your hairs "down there" would stand on end... And the panties would suddenly have a drop or two on them....
Ok, I actually dont know if I'm right but my guesses are:
1. You dont love him
2. You do love him but you are afraid to trust him
3. You are missing some one else and wish you were with him
4. you are twenty six and your sexual drives are changing, and you are not turned on that easily any more...
5. All of the above
6. I have no clue what I'm talking about...
Let me know what you think..
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