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writes:I would really appreciate some help with my dilema.I have been seeing a guy for the last 3 months. Things moved along quite quickly and he told me he loved me quite quickly. The feelings were soon recipricated on my half. We only see each other at weekends due to week day committments on his side.Ok, so here goes: He doesn't seem to be as sexually driven as me and we hardly ever have sex. We have just come back from a weekend away where i thought our sex life might pick up but it didn't. I'm starting to feel it's me and that he isn't attracted to me anymore. I asked him one night when we were out drinking and he said that of course he is still into me but that when he drinks that he loses the urge to have sex.. Due to the fact that we only get together at weekends and at least one of the nights we would have a good few drinks. Yesterday I tried to speak to him but he said he didn;t want to talk about it so i went home in a bad mood. He later text me and said he hoped i was well etc.etc. as if nothing had happened. I replied saying that i was upset that there were things i wanted to talk to him about but that he wasn't prepared to listen. I said that if/when he thiks he can listen to let me know but that i couldn't go on like this. He said that we could meet up later in the week after he plays his hockey games and the other committments that he has. I just feel if i was important to him that he would make me priority. I'm sure he knows what i want to talk about and could be a bit embarassed.Help ?
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (2 June 2009):
 "when he drinks he loses the urge to have sex"
If he knows this that means he is choosing to drink over having sex. It also means that hes choosing to drink over you. expecially after you told him that you "couldn't go on like this" that to me screems Alcoholic.
Also instead of relieving your concerns at once (a long phone conversion would have been nice) he decided that it was more important to "plays his hockey games and the other committments that he has" which puts you where - at the bottom of his priority list.
Its only been 3 months - run, run like the wind.
****Or maybe he's simi-impotent and could use some viagra.
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reader, trshly +, writes (2 June 2009):
 If he can't talk to you now, trust me, he won't learn it later on.
Guys something in their brains that say 'if i can get away with it, do it'. This doesn't change by a girl being upset at them. It changes by losing something wonderful.
Leave now, before you are serious!
If he grows and changes, which you can learn by being a friend to him, maybe you will work well together in the future.
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