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writes:My husband demands I suck his dick every morning but I dont want to. I am over 50 and cant support myself and remaining kids in house. If I dont, he menaces me. I am sure it is not right for him to demand I blow him each morning, but he feels it is his right and besides, he says his job is stressful and it relieves his stress. But it only adds to mine. I am very depresed. What can I do?.
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reader, Desiree101 +, writes (21 February 2012):
The other posters are cruel and taking risks with your marriage. Don't listen to them. They are taking chances with your marriage and your happiness. Talk is cheap, and it is you not them who will suffer if their advice turns out to be bad (which it will, trust me). Bottom line: You need to decide if you would be better off with him or without him. Consider the whole deal. Is 10 minutes of giving a blow job each day really worth giving up all you have with him? If it is, then you should already be gone. Get with the program girl! But if (as I suspect) you think this over and decide that really the blow job is not worth giving up every thing else, then stop resisting. That only causes you anxiety. I will guarantee he knows you are doing it under duress, and that doesn't do anything for him either. Instead, get into it. Read up on it and do your best to be the best you can be at this one thing your husband asks. Dress up for it. Wear lipstick. Learn to love it. I can tell you form perosnal experience that attitude makes all the difference. In just a year, I went form resenting my husband's morning blow jobs and experienceing an increasingly unhappy marriage--to giving that ten minutes my very best, learning to love it, and seeing my marirage miraculously healed. We are renewing our vows next month (his idea) and going on a cruise for our honeymoon (also his idea). My husband would never have done any of this a year ago.I changed my attitude, and that changed everything. I highly reccomend it.
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reader, twinlab99 +, writes (8 April 2010):
 Just do it or he'll cheat on you or divocre you :) Trust me on this one. However, you should make him do it as well :)
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reader, Tooreal +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Whoa how rude and inconsiderant. you should tell him to go down on you every night and see how he likes it. One morning you should just bite that shit and tell him you're sick of it. (just a little humor to ease your mind.)
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (4 June 2009):
 hello demanding that you get a blowjob is not rape.
it is rude and ignorant.
by the logic espoused by a respondent below if i shouted " i want sex" at someone then that equates to holding them down and forcing them into penetration.
demands DO NOT have to be met.
below is definition of the word demand within economics
The amount of a particular economic good or service that a consumer or group of consumers will want to purchase at a given price.
my point is if he is demanding a service what do YOU get. he owes you cunnilingus, money or respect. make this man pay.
maybe the way you will make him pay is by divorcing him on "unreasonable behaviour.
you have a good case-and a choice to make
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): If you don't want to do it and he's making you, that's rape. Talk to him about it and if he still "demands" oral I would look into means of getting away from him. Women's shelters, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): Let him know how his demands make you feel. You are depressed because you are angry about this and turning in on yourself and stuffing it down. So what if he gets mad, what is he a child?
To demand something sexual each day is self centered and abusive in my opinion and you just need to stand up for yourself....it is a shame that sex has to be a battleground in a marriage....and perhaps some marital counseling is in order to work on better communication and learning how to show love that means something to each partner....
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): My God - if that's all you've got to worry about in life - anyway, why should you have a problem pleasing your man? Stressful? Depressed? Hah! Poor old you.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (2 June 2009):
when do you recieve your oral sex from him? is it morning or evening?
i love oral sex more than my own face, and by god do i love my face. it makes a person feel good and should be a special treat on offer to reward good behaviour, not breakfast.
your problem is that the quality of the oral sex you provide is clearly wayyyy too good. try ading a little teeth into the mix (do this subtlely though so that it lessens his enjoyment and also is difficult for him to prove). just a gentle incisor brush will do it. believe me teeth even in a tiny sensation detract from the soothing warm mental cocoon that a blowjob provides and spoil the mental felling of being eclosed within another safely (like being a foetus-having an orgasm).
on a more serious note it sounds like both of you feel unloved, maybe see a couples counsellor so that someone else will be able to your lives in perspective.
good luck (maybe eat a chilli before hand)
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (2 June 2009):
when do you recieve your oral sex from him? is it morning or evening?
i love oral sex more than my own face, and by god do i love my face. it makes a person feel good and should be a special treat on offer to reward good behaviour, not breakfast.
your problem is that the quality of the oral sex you provide is clearly wayyyy too good. try ading a little teeth into the mix (do this subtlely though so that it lessens his enjoyment and also is difficult for him to prove). just a gentle incisor brush will do it. believe me teeth even in a tiny sensation detract from the soothing warm mental cocoon that a blowjob provides and spoil the mental felling of being eclosed within another safely (like being a foetus-having an orgasm).
on a more serious note it sounds like both of you feel unloved, maybe see a couples counsellor so that someone else will be able to your lives in perspective.
good luck (maybe eat a chilli before hand)
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