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writes:I love my boyfriend very much and is very much serious about him. I know that very well that his brother doesn't like our commitment. Recently I came to know the reason behind this hatred, his brother liked me before. But I accepted my boyfriend's proposal before he proposed me. Thats why he is so much angry on me. Now after a week or two i came to know this, he told my boyfriend that he saw me flirting with some other guy. My boyfriend is not believing me. He is saying that he doesn't believe anyone. He says that he will not fight for me with his brother because he is afraid if I am a liar and if he fights with his brother then he will lose him. He also says that he will not fight for him as he is also afraid of his brother out as a liar and he will lose me.Now it has became a month we had this day, but still he doubts that I am trifling him and I am a coquette. Its obviously not true. He also claims that I don't love him. I love him from my heart's core and don't want to lose him and want to prove myself innocent. But I don't have any proof! I told him that his brother used to like me and is doing so to break us apart but still he is not believing anyone. I am afraid that he will believe his brother someday and leave me! Please help me get out this situation!! Suggest me something
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a lot everyone. You all really helped me a lot.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (28 February 2011):
 Ask his brother to tell the truth, that he lied because he was jealous. Ask if he cares more about revenge or his brother? Tell him that yo two are on the verge of breaking up over his lies and that its up to him to fix it now or he'll have to live with what he did for the rest of his life.
If you are lucky he will realize the error or his ways and confess to his brother that he made the whole thing up.
If not well then I guess you're going have to use the tape recording you made of the conversation.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (27 February 2011):
This is a hard one. But I will tell you what: your boyfriend has to believe in you in order to be your boyfriend. There is no relationship if there isn't trust. Simple as that. He just can't doubt your word and pretend everything is ok. He has to stop and try to solve this problem with you. And then decide if he stays with you or if you break up. If he stays he has to believe what you say. And he doesn't need to fight with his brother. He just has to ignore what his brother says about you.About your boyfriend's brother, you have to talk to him and make him understand that you have nothing against him. And you are sorry if something you did hurt him.After these two events you have to stop and check the results. And then you have to decide what to do next.
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (27 February 2011):
 This is very very sticky. You need to have a talk with your fiance's brother. Be calm and respectful, and try to help him understand that you love his brother with your whole heart, and if he takes you away from his brother, he'll be hurting his own blood so much. If he gets mean about it, ask him (calmly and non-threateningly) if he really believes that taking you away from his brother will make you go out with him. Because it will not, that might stop him too. You also need to talk to you fiance. DO NOT be accusatory. Tell him that you love him and only him, and that you have eyes for no one else. Say you aren't sure what you might have done to make his brother think you were flirting with another man, but that he was mistaken and you absolutely did not do that, and never would. Give him the option of having both you and his brother being honest people who love him by stating that his brother was simply mistaken. That's what he wants to believe because he loves both of you. Who knows? Maybe he was mistaken. Assume best intent and I wish you the best of luck in this situation.
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Sibling rivalry sucks and I'm sorry to know you're in the middle of it. The best thing to do is to confront his brother, with your boyfriend there (so you're not at risk for more 'he said, she said' drama).
Also, publicly proclaim your love as often as you can. Examples: Kiss unashamed in public, spontaneously dance with him and you're actions will speak louder than your words. Soon your man will get over his uncertainty.
I hope things get better and his brother learns to be happy for you two.
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