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writes:I recently met someone on a course during the course we seemed to just click. I felt really attracted to this guy but at the time he had just started dating someone, so thought ah well he's taken so kind of backed off. 2 weeks later though they split up.We've since had lunch together, and gone to some bars and clubs with other friends.I want to ask him out on a date, I am too afraid of what the answer could be.I feel our age difference could be an issue for him, as he's 7 years younger than I am.There's definitely something there between us but I’m not sure if he see me as dating material! If he not interested in me in that way it could mess up a really good friendship.So what should I do?Ask him out, who knows him may say yes?Continue just as friends and see what happens?Just see him as a friend and look else ware?Many thanks guys for your answers.
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reader, dddddddd  +, writes (14 March 2009):
Seven years really isn't that much. It sounds like the real issue isn't the age difference but whether he'd want to date you or not! Like any instance you can never really know for certain if you ask. Since you are hesitent though and value his friendship, then maybe observe just a tad longer and see if you get any stronger indication.
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reader, kanapandadoll  +, writes (14 March 2009):
It really depends on the man, I know my boyfriend (who is 3 years older than me) has said that he would be fine dating and older woman or being with a 'cougar'.Maybe bring it up in terms of someone you know dating someone older and see how he feels about the age issue. In the end though I think how he feels about you is the deal breaker.I am not sure where your age difference is (20/27, 30/37, 50/57) which would also affect what the age means in terms of where you are in your lives and such and if that is compatible.
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reader, Ricky1989 +, writes (14 March 2009):
It isn't really as black and white as "ask him out or dont ask him out".
for now the best thing you can do is get to know him a little bit more (say 3-4 months of quality time), then ask him out somewhere romantic. Make sure you maintain eye contact and if you see slight hesitation within the fist few split seconds then quickly add "as a friend of course"
After 3 or 4 more meet ups do some activity that friends would do, e.g. cinema followed by pub/bar, see how touchy feely he gets after a couple of drinks and that should tell you whether or not hes interested in you.
You cant rush things, trust me. Just play it on - a good plan takes time :)
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