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writes:i am a 34 year old divorce mom to a 6 year old girl. a couple of months ago, I met a guy at a bar with my friends. Turns out we live down the street from each other and were hanging out often watching football games on sunday. ect.ect.We have a chemistry and connection and get a long amazingly. Here's the problem. Well, the first being the age difference. He's 23. The second is he tells me after hanging out the 2nd time is he's got a girlfriend. Their relationship is new. about 2 months. He says he can't break up with her because she has helped him with so many things. And he's doesn't want to stop hanging out with me because he loves to be around me. I make him feel good, and he can talk to me about anything. He says he can tell me things he would never tell her. So what should I do? End it completely, or just be friends. I know I don't want a relationship with him because if he can cheat on her, he'll probably do it to me someday. Yet, I can't deny that when we are together, sparks fly. I've tried to end contact a couple of times and one time, he showed up at my door begging for me not to shut him out of my life. I am confuse. Can I get advice. cause the feelings are there. But I don't want to ruin my life. I can't afford to make a mistake with my life. thank you
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (23 October 2009):
Unless you have personal concerns about it, I don't believe the age gap is a problem.
If you enjoy hanging out with him the way he says he does with you, I think you should both just enjoy the time you spend together. You seem to have a good friendship and their is nothing wrong with that.
However if you don't have romantic feelings for him or any interest in dating him (should his current relationship end), then you should just be honest and tell him if he brings the subject up.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 October 2009):
Well, dont' worry about the age gap. I'm a younger guy seeing an aolder woman, so I know that's not an issue. However, he has a girlfriend, so he isn't yours to touch, and as you say, of he cheated on one and wouldn't leave her, no doubt he'd hurt you too. Just be friends with him and leave it at that unless he leaves his girlfriend and really works hard to show he's worthy of you.
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