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writes:i am 16 turning 17 and i met a guy at a party. he is 21 turning 22 in 4 months. we have gone out a few times and i am beggininng to like him alot but i know he is freaked out about the age difference. sometimes he says it doesnt matter but other times he makes it known that hes worried. i dont know what to do. i get attacthed way too easily. should i break it off now so i dont get too hurt? (easier said than done) do i see what is going to happen when i turn 17 and am legal? what should i do? someone please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): First off you are "legal" as you call it at 16.
Second - i wouldnt worry about it too much. He is probaly just a little weirded about it at the moment. When i was 16 i was dating a guy who was 22 and although we loved each other he would not introduce him to my parents until i was 17. I talked to him about it and he said it was just taking him time to get used to it and he didnt want people to say that he was pressuring me because i was younger then him. In the end it all turned out great and we had a good relationship.
In the end we broke up, but that was because we were no longer happy together as a couple, not because of the age difference.
Give it some time - it will get better - i promise you that!
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 As long as you are careful i don't see the problem with the age gap if you like each other me and my husband were exactly the same ages as you two when we met and i am now twenty nine and still with him.
Go with what you feel is right for you.
Take care.xx.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (26 June 2007):
Your 're too Young-Girl. And as nologo says: You got your whole life ahead of you. So why rush into an affair, as for age. It really has very little to do with love, as I see it. It is the commitment, that's the glue in any relationship, that makes it work, and keeps it alive,and healthy.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 You are younger than he: time is yours.I mean you got more time for decisions.Well, you can break with him, but is it what you really want?Probably the best would be to keep it a bit slow for a while.Now about "do i see what is going to happen when i turn 17 and am legal?" - my policy here is to give "no legal advice".
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