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writes: Is it right to break up with my bf or to be considerate with the situation?, he is still supporting his so called ex financially but he just told me just now that he hadn't broken up with her for the girl is having her nursing reveiw at this moment and shes asking my bf not to do that to her,he told me that he's just doing this for the board exam sake and theyre not bf/gf as it would be for the girl knows about us already, i told him i hated him for not telling this to me but in some point i did understand. i mean, holding this stuff that he told me that he prefers to be with me all this time and he's showing that thing in actions, ya its true but i cant be one of his girls, i admit, telling me that he has a lot of good plans for us and our relationship is very different with her in terms of having an intimate relationship.but still in my perception its not right.I told him that im not comfortable with the situation and i want us both to come up with a realistic solution with it, i wanted to end it right away but he's asking me to talk more about this in person when he gets home next week, and i said ok with respected him still.But firmly if that day will come that we have to talk and then he's still wanting to be connected with his ex then that's the time that i'll break up with him in person. am i planning this the right way? i need some advice plssssssss
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2007): thanks eve, we've been together for almost 6months now...we did talked bout this issue before coz i did broke up with him bout this and after one week his begging me to stay, asking me to be considerate for he has to support his ex until she will finished school..but i think this would be right at all....pls help
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reader, flatpack84  +, writes (10 February 2007):
 It isn't fair for him to treat you in this way; do you think he will ever truly cut the ties with his ex? For him to continue seeing her and supporting is a conflict of interests. You have to take a step back and decide whether he's not turning his back completely on this other girl for different reasons.There is a difference between being friends with an ex and still playing a supporting role in their life in such a big way. As others have asked, if they share a child for instance, this situation may never end and you have to ask yourself whether you can commit to this kind of set up.Good luck :)
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reader, AskEve +, writes (10 February 2007):
 You're doing the right thing. Why is he financially supporting his ex? Did they have a child together? Where is he just now? You said he gets home next week...????
For all you know he could BE with his ex at this very moment. Have you ever had any cause to doubt him in the past? How long have you been together? Sorry to ask so many questions but if you can get back to me on them either here on by email then I'll try and help you some more.
Eve
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