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writes:About 4 weeks ago, my friend set me up on a blind date with a guy from her work who is 20 years old (i just turned 18). We went out on a 'date' as a group, with my friend, her bf, and another friend of ours and her bf too. It was kind of awkward because there was me and this guy and then two couples. I didnt like the situation we were put in because I had only just met him and felt pressured to be more then just friends when we werent even really friends yet as we just met.Anyway, after the first date, we met a few more times in the following weeks. Then last week we were suppose to go out to dinner (as a group) but he cancelled on me because apparently a friend of his was leaving to go back to his home town and he wanted to see him before he left. He said to me he was sorry and was really looking forward to that night and that we would do something next sat night. It is now Saturday night right now and nothing happened. We didnt go out. I talked to him once after he said we would do something later and he didnt mention catching up again. i dont know why. do u think him cancelling on me and him saying 'we should do it agian later' was just a polite way of letting me down? perhaps he was hoping i would take the hint that him cancelling meant he didnt like me?pleaseeee help! i really like him and dont know what to do. i am too scared to ask him out to get a straight answer cause i fear the rejection oh so badly. what do u guys think? ohh and also just one more thing...my friend is as clueless as me. he doesnt really give much away about his feelings and thoughts to her, or even to his other friends. so we dont know exactly what he thinks of me expects that i seem 'realy really really sweet and innocent' (everyone says that about me). i duno what thats suppose to mean. good or bad? Reply to this Question
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reader, TygersDream  +, writes (11 February 2007):
 Well, my pessimist-senses tell me that he's dropping you gently, while my optimist says that perhaps he's just really busy this week and doesn't want to give you hollow promises when he knows he doesn't have the time.
I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. Try calling him this Thursday and asking him out for a date on Friday/Saturday night. If he still doesn't have the time, I'd bow out gracefully and look elsewhere for a date.
Good luck!
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (11 February 2007):
 Could be that he has issues of his own as far as backing out of a relationship (for lack of a better word) and this is the only way he knows how to do it.However, don't give up before finding out if this is all legit. Maybe he really did have these situations come up preventing him from getting back to you.All I am saying is find out for sure. Best wishes. Doc.
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