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*aur2000
writes:i have been dating my boyfriend for a couple of months. He said that he wouldnt pressure me into thing sexually and to his credit he has been very good at keeping his word... well untill recently. He says he wont pressure me but in the same breath complains that i wont let him do certain things and its like he's going back of his word. What should i do, should i tell him to back off or just ignore it HELP what should i do? xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, laur2000 +, writes (15 June 2009):
laur2000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice i've found it really useful and it gonna talk to him about it next time i see him xx
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reader, laur2000 +, writes (15 June 2009):
laur2000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice i've found it really useful and it gonna talk to him about it next time i see him xx
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reader, alexroliepolie  +, writes (14 June 2009):
 Ask him why he complains about not letting him do things. Boys are silly. He may be completely honest about not pressuring you and is totally willing to back off and give you your time, but if he is complaining and whining about not being able to, there is obviously something wrong. Or he just wants it really bad, but he's still respecting your wishes. Either tell him to chill out or explain to him why it's important that you both wait. If that doesn't work, maybe he just wants some and... yeah. You might need to break it off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): From a guys point of view, when you get aroused - say after kissing - the 'urge' to have sex is very strong, as genetics has this thing in your head that makes you want to do it to ensure the survival of the human race. at the age you specify its a pretty strong urge, and I have been guilty of asking my girlfriend if she wanted to even though she wasnt ready, and i KNEW she wasnt and respected this. but at the time it seems like a good idea. However! dont just think that its fine. Do remind him of the promise he made and that you arent ready. this is what he needs to hear, by telling him this - even if you have to do it alot - you show that you wont give in to him, which is a strong trait and shows great self respect of yourself. Always remind him, and be firm but remember its programming, not just him being a jackass - he probably does respect you, but in the heat of the moment, things can come out of his mouth that arent controlled by his brain but another part of his body!So do not give in. Hold your ground, keep being firm! but just realise that he does respect you, his penis just doesnt listen! nautres got a strong hold - so dont get upset!
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reader, countrygal462 +, writes (14 June 2009):
 u should tell him that you want to wait until you're ready and if he cant accept that then you should dumo him. its not worth the pain over that stuff.
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