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writes:I've just met this guy who I'm crazy about, he asked me out and everything was great. The thing is, he's a LOT different to guys I normally go for and he expects very different things from a relationship, and it would take a while for me to get used to. I really want the relationship to work, but I can't help but wonder if I would be better off with a guy that is more like the type I'm used to. Should I move on and find someone else or should I try and make it work with my boyfriend?
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reader, MuffinGirl  +, writes (5 October 2008):
 You have choice. Do you like things which he expect from relationship? Are you ready to do different things in with him? Do you like his character?
1) If the answer to this questions would be yes, then be with him. It doesn't matter he is different than your previous boyfriends.. Obviously your past relationship were not so brilliant as you may think they were, because you're not with no one of them anymore.As Uncle Phil said, the new guy could be breath of fresh air. If your relationship won't work, you still have a choice and leave him. I'd suggest, take a time and you'll see what's happening. You're crazy about him, so what else is matter?
2) But if the answer to my questions would be no, then don't be with him (except if you're ready for compromises) Once I had a boyfriend who was very attractive and sweet, but he had completely different character and expectations than mine.. He expected so much different things from relationship than i did. In the end of relationship he finished with broken heart and I with mixed feelings of despising him and feeling quilty. We haven't been ready to do compromises.
So i think this questions are really important. Ask yourself what do you expect from relationship and how much different are your expectations? If you're ready to making compromises then be with him anyway, but if you're not... Well, it's better to think about it more.
Best wishes.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (5 October 2008):
 You're not with those other guys now, so maybe keep going for the same type is where you're going wrong. I dont know, but if you like him that much, why not take a gamble and see how it goes. Cant help thinking it would be a mistake to end it with him because he is different to what you 'normally' go for. Every bloke ive been with has been very different. Wheras I know now the sort of guy I would go for, and what is more likely to last, everyone is different and if I liked them, unless I KNEW there were things about them I couldn't live with, I would see what happens. Gotta be your choice though ultimately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): The guys you've been used to are now all in your past -exes - so although you were used to that type of guy, they weren't for you!
This new guy could well be a breath of fresh air, something different and you could get to like him and maybe the two of you will fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. Maybe you're not his usual type either, but he's there for the experiment at least.
If you don't give it a try, you'll never know!
Best of luck!
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